1. Shelly is so lucky, she sees and knows everything about everyone.
This is probably one of the biggest myths there is. I don't always just know where your husband is when he says he is going golfing, or where your missing necklace is or who your real dad is. I don't know what your deepest secrets and thoughts are and I certainly can't tell you what lotto numbers to play. While I can "see" more into your life than the average person & all of the things I just mentioned sometimes do just come to me, It's usually much harder than that...I usually have to go through the same relaxation and connecting technique that I do when I'm doing a session, I have to call in my angels and spirit guides, your angels and spirit guides, I have to really focus my mind on the question at hand & rarely get a direct answer...for example...I don't see your husband in a bar with his friends having a Coors Light & discussing his lie to you about being at the golf course, I may see that he isn't where he says, I may get a name...possibly his middle name or a name of someone he is sitting near or the bartender, I might hear a song that is playing in the background, but chances are, you or I will not even understand what those things mean. I rarely can just get asked a question and immediately know the answer.
2. I wish I could have the easy job Shelly does, she must make a ton of money working from home just a few hours a week or better yet, she does sessions for 40 hours a week.....if you do the math of the session fees, she's raking in the money.
This could NOT be further from the truth. There is a lot more than people realize that goes into this job. It is not a career that anyone (after really understanding what goes into it) would choose to do like going to college for a degree as a medium....My husband and I sacrifice a lot, we work long hours, are constantly away from our kids, meet strangers at hotels without really knowing if we are safe, deal with some very mentally unstable individuals-people who threaten everything from harming us to fake blackmail to suicide and everything in between. We get calls 24/7, some emergencies....many hang ups in the middle of family game night with our kids or just a relaxing dinner. I can't go out in public without either being recognized or having spirits come through to the point where I can't even finish what I'm trying to do.....and after all of this, the income is the same and some months less, than we made at our previous jobs....I am not doing sessions full time, that would be much too draining and just isn't possible. In addition to all of this, we have lost friends and family who simply do not believe in what we do-thinking it's evil or non-existant...No, this is certainly not a career that most people would choose...it chose me!
3. If I can do a reading with Shelly, she will solve all my problems, make my life worth living, make it all better, etc...
There are many people who have readings/sessions with me in which they find ultimate peace after years of heartache or get all their questions answered before even asking, but this is not always the case, this is the 1st step in a long journey, much like counseling, many people need numerous readings to connect and reconnect with their loved ones to find that peace or those answers.
4. Oh, I forgot to ask XYZ during my session, I think I'll ask Shelly or I just realized what she meant during my reading when my loved one said this, I need to ask her if XYZ is what he meant or I don't need a full session, I just have one quick question for her that I need answered.
I get a ton of emails and messages from people asking me for things outside of a session or after a session. I simply can't just answer these questions, as described in the previous question #1 above, there is an entire process to this and I do sessions before and after yours, so I don't remember most of your session once I have dialed the next number. Also, when I'm done with sessions or have a day off, I am thinking about my life, my family, etc... not connecting with the other dimensions. If I kept myself connected 24/7 in case anything comes through or to answer your "1 question" I would be so stressed and drained, I wouldn't be able to use my gift at all.
5. Shelly must read people's minds just for the fun of it or to see how they really feel.
I have a full busy life, connecting with the other side is mentally, emotionally, & physically draining, and so is focusing on other people's thoughts and minds. I have no desire to know what others are thinking, I see and hear enough without that...just because I can sometimes do it, doesn't mean I want to! I don’t see people in the mall or on the street and try to "see" what their life is like, I have no desire to know and when it comes to me automatically, I try to block it or leave their vicinity, I just don't need that drama.
6. This must be like a drug for Shelly, she probably has so much energy.
This is completely the opposite of the truth. I am more tired than ever and have difficulty ever relaxing...I don't remember the last time I slept for more than an hour or two at a time. If you look at my photos before I admitted to the world I could do this and started doing it professionally, then look at my photos now, I have aged well beyond the time I should have.
7. Shelly is so blessed, she has a perfect life.
TRUST ME...none of us have a perfect life. I am very blessed with many things (this gift, my family, my husband and children, health, etc...) but we all have our drama, no ones life is perfect, including mine. I am a normal human being and have the normal faults within myself and the same family, financial, minor health, etc.. issues that you have.
8.Shelly isn't really communicating and she's scamming people, no one can talk to the dead.
There are thousands of reviews and testimonials on my website, my Facebook page, and individual unbiased 3rd party websites saying otherwise. Sure, I know that there may be some people who will believe anything and often I get the same "Cold Reader" accusations as all other mediums & psychics, but the truth is, most of these reviews are from sane, smart, skeptical people who first came to me with no expectations, telling me nothing, not even their name, and I was able to give them very private, specific details about their life that can't be explained...how would I know that stuff? They aren't reaching to make it fit, it's not vague or general, it's specific and detailed.....It's coming from somewhere and I believe I am communicating not only with the dead, but have the ability to read minds, to psychically know things, and to communicate with other dimensions (spirit guides and angels). Just because you can't hear or see it doesn't mean I'm just really good at reading body language or guessing, the things I have been able to tell are not even close to things that would be guessed. I never pressure anyone to do a reading and I have nothing to hide, I'm an open book and very public with my life...I have no private life and trust me, this is way more work and stress than anyone would ever do to scam people out of a few hundred bucks....many times, I leave a group making next to nothing because of the time out of office I'm not doing phone sessions, the hotel and gas expense, etc..... why would I do that all for a lie? It makes no sense, because it isn't true. I get to help people...as long as I have people that are truly helped and find peace, I will continue doing this...yes, it is my job and it pays the bills, but I could do many other jobs that pay the bills for a lot less stress.
9. Shelly is communicating with other dimensions, but it's pure evil, those spirits are at rest and she's disturbing them.
This is ridiculous but you wouldn't believe how many people believe in afterlife, believe that I am talking to the dead, but also believe it's evil and I'm going to the place they call Hell for it.....this is simply so much of a misconception all I can say is, you can't believe every detail you read, even if it is in a book called the Bible. We are living in Hell already in this world, this is a gift from God and I was given it so I could use it.
10. Shelly is so strong, she never cries during sessions and seems to be always happy.
While I love my life and this gift, I am not as strong as you think. I cry watching Bambi....I am very emotionally fragile, if you deal with heartache, sorrow, and death and see the ugliest parts of the world all day everyday, it definitely shatters your strength. As a psychic medium, I struggle everyday with separating other people's problems and sorrows and living my life....do you know how hard it is to watch your teenager leave in the car, only hours after doing a reading for someone who's teen son with the same name or birthday, passed in a car accident?......I do have strength of faith and family, but I'm also very fragile.
11. Shelly charges too much or should work for free.
Would you go in to work tomorrow for free? Why should I? If you are a nurse, do you take double shifts on the weekend at a hospital that is hours away, leaving your children for days on end for free or less pay because you are helping people? of course not, in a perfect world, we would all be able to do this, but I have to pay my bills as you do, so just as you wouldn’t work for free, nor do. The time I put into this and the expenses of hotels and travel, etc... are definitely too much of an expense and to much pressure on my family to do this for free or for any less than I charge now. You are literally making an appointment with your passed loved one, it amazes me the number of people who question the price of that!
12. Shelly should time her sessions, I want to know in advance exactly how long sessions are.
This is one of the craziest things I have ever heard. This is not a Science, I am not God...just as I can't see and know everything about you or your life, I can't possible know what will happen during a session or how long it will last. All are different and I never know what I'm getting. I refuse to just tell your relatives to leave because a timer goes off-that's cruel.
I hope this clears up some of the misconceptions and myths I have heard about me and my life as a psychic medium. I love what I do, and it's definitely worth the sacrifice and difficulties I deal with to be able to help others find peace. I honestly don't know why there are so many people criticizing those of us that do this, if people find peace and are happy, why do they care? No one is forcing them to do a reading or connect with their own passed loved ones....I think, at least for some, it's because they don't have their own happiness, so they don't want others to be happy either, it's a sad but true fact. At this point in my life, there's nothing else I would rather do, but trust me, I didn't "choose" this....it chose me.