Why do people drive hours to do a reading? How do these people know this is REALLY their loved one? What makes you different than other psychics and mediums? Many people don't realize that I travel to hotels doing one on one private readings or that people often schedule me to come to their area. Often those coming to meet me will drive hours & really need that closure & peace, some just need to know their loved ones are ok & with them in spirit, but others have unanswered questions. Why are they willing to drive so far and how do they know it's real? How do they know I'm not researching them in advance or "cold reading" (a term used often by skeptics). You may have seen on my website there are numerous testimonials (both written and video interviews) from people who have done readings with me, all are genuinely shocked, many in tears and almost all finding peace they have been trying to find for years. I'm going to give you some examples of what messages often come through but just as important, I'll then explain how or why they know these messages are proven to be real. Here are just a few examples of life changing messages that came through during readings recently (after, I'll explain more about the proof part): -a mom told her daughter she had not committed suicide 20 years earlier & even called out her killer by name, a name that happened to be the step father the family had suspected all along, -a teen daughter explains that while she had not killed herself & her friend hadn't pushed her in front of a car, the friend hadn't tried to help her either, -a father apologizes for abandoning his son & explains the new family didn't want him to stay in touch all those years, but he regrets not standing up to them, -a sister tells her older sister not to feel bad for the argument & time they spent not speaking &all is forgiven, -a boyfriend thanks his fiancé for the tattoo of the rose with the teardrops. Also, along with these type messages spirit also gives specific details to prove it's really them, these details are almost always so specific they couldn't possibly be researched or known by anyone else, this is called validating. These messages alone often contain validation; like the tattoo with teardrops that have specific initials in the teardrop or the sister who was burdened with guilt, remember, I know nothing about her-even if I were to research as skeptics often claim, I doubt the obituary says the sisters hadn't been speaking. A guess maybe? Perhaps, but for all I knew they were extremely close, quite a risky guess but it's not just that comment about the guilt that convinces the lady that this REALLY IS HER SISTER. I feel my "specialty" is validation, that is using the process of conserving spirit energy for their messages while also getting very accurate & specific details to validate & prove it's really them at the very beginning of the reading. Spirit will often tell me things such as nicknames, specific dates, code words, where something is hidden, etc and while it doesn't always work smoothly or quickly, eventually the validation usually comes. I'm very patient. I never rush them or time my readings. I first validate who they are by extensively having them show me things in my life (for example people in my family so I'll say names), signs, symbols, etc so that without wasting all of their energy validating (or we'd have none left to connect for their important messages i mentioned earlier). It's a pretty hard balancing act for me & for them. I often describe it as putting together a puzzle that starts as general & vague clues that get much more detailed & specific as we go until eventually we have undeniable overwhelming evidence as to their identity. People often ask, "Why don't they just come through & tell you their name or connection to me?"; my simple answer -Many do & I don't know why they all can't but I believe it has to do with the energy of the person doing the reading, negativity in the room, my energy, their energy, the strength of our connection. I have noticed many times they validate well but it takes a lot of energy then while giving their message, they give me their name and I think, "why didn't they just do that to begin with" but I lose them soon after so I think it takes a lot of energy quickly when they start "normal" conversation. Often times, after providing details during the beginning validation such as specific dates or nicknames, and even more validations during their messages, like things that happened during their final days or as they were passing (such as thank you for telling me it was ok to go, or I waited until you left the room to pass), they will show me something or tell me something during the final minutes as I'm losing them that is more shocking validation than all the rest combined....the person doing the reading and I never know what's coming out next, it's remarkable to me the little things that they will get me to say, often things that I almost don't say because they seem so trivial, that is the one thing that convinces them without a doubt that this entire experience is real, for example as I was losing connection with a Father during a recent reading (he had validated well throughout and I feel the lady knew without a doubt it was her Dad already), but as if to say, in case there is any doubt left in your mind, he was saying his "I love you & I'm always with you" he turned to leave (that's the image I get in my mind as I'm losing connection, he turned back around and suddenly showed me his teeth, they had turned blue, bright blue, it was the strangest thing and I had never seen this before, spirit isn't even in physical form, they are energy, but often show me images of things, so I'll say certain things, so I thought in that quick moment, trying to decide if I would scare this lady by telling her I had lost her Dad's connection and my last image of his was blue teeth or should I say it, so I did...I said, "This may sound crazy and probably means nothing, but I try to mention every detail, so I'm going to ask, Do you know why he would be showing me bright blue teeth"? She began sobbing hysterically, she knew immediately what that meant and had apparently been waiting and hoping to hear that all along....even after all the names, birthdates, other specific validation, personality descriptions,etc that had come through, this tiny image of blue teeth meant the most to her and she explained "As he was dying, I told him, it's ok to go...go be with mom, show her those gorgeous blue teeth of yours, we'll be fine here, he laughed and squeezed my hand and then he passed" this was a conversation they had when he took his last breath in the hospital, his teeth had been blue because of something like juice he had been drinking, but that comment was VERY significant to her. These are the type things that can not be found online, they can not be researched, they are not in an obituary or on a Facebook page (not that any genuine medium has time to do all that research anyway because we do not). You can't cold read (which is a skeptic's way of saying we read body language). There is no logical or scientific way to explain that comment away as being anything other than a beautiful message of proof and validation from a loving father to his daughter. This is why people drive hours, wait months, then write reviews after, this is why people do readings over and over again. I'm not saying this process of connecting with passed loved ones is for everyone and I'm not saying every single reading has that specific of a validation message, but what I am saying is that I try as hard as I can to get that for every single person I do a reading with. From my perspective, you can't put a time limit on it, so I dont. I wish I could get everyone those kind of details. I often do, but sometimes I just don't...sometimes I don't get as much validation as I would like, but that same person does a reading again, and the next time, I do. I am just the middle man, I repeat, but I will promise to do my very best to repeat every detail and to be open, honest, and to put emphasis on the validating, because I know, the messages matter, but so does the validation. I will come to your area to do a one on one reading with you alone and/or your family or for a group, I also do phone readings. To schedule a reading, or to get information on having me come to your area, please call 717-816-1258. Please share this blog, spread the word so that more people understand how this process works. I can't speak for other mediums and I do believe there are only a handful of "genuine" mediums in this world, but if you have a good one, they will get some validation for you.
It’s just the Beginning of Something Better!
Did you stop Doing Readings? What & Why the discount? What’s The Fee & Why the change?
These are questions I get daily. On any given day, I may get a variation of these questions at least 30 times via email, Facebook, Twitter, etc… I know for the last few years it has been EXTREMELY confusing with different fees and different answers. You can do a reading in my home then you can’t, reading fees were all over the place, etc… As many of you know, my husband John handles most (pretty much all now) of the scheduling, inquiries, emails, etc… During the last few years, we have tested numerous ways to do the readings. You all know I’m honest…some of these methods worked well for us and you, some did not. We have made many changes along the way and I’m sure we will continue to do so as we see ways to improve & make it better for you. Please Keep in mind, while most “businesses” may have less changes or at least wouldn’t admit to it, I will NEVER consider this a traditional business, because each of you mean so much more to me than simply a “customer”….we share a private emotional bond during these readings and to me, you are all more like family, so with everything we change, every policy we make, there is a reason behind it and we try our very best to meet the needs of the majority of you while keeping me strong enough (energy wise) to keep your readings as accurate and good as they always have been.
So we have finally found our way! Here are the final changes in procedure, readings, etc… I think you’ll be happy to find it’s a much smoother & easier process than many of you have experienced when trying to get a reading in the past, with fees being lower in most situations and easier to understand, but because many readings involve travel, there can never be a flat standard fee across the board for most of the in person readings. As always, please call John directly with any questions or to schedule 717-816-1258.
Thanks so much for your understanding and support and for continuing to spread the word over the last few years as things were constantly changing, we know it was very confusing at times and appreciate it so much! Keep spreading the word for me. I have the best fans & clients in the world, & I love you all!
SO WHAT’S DIFFERENT?
Phone readings: At one time phone readings were over $300, as you spread the word, it helped me grow so I passed the savings on……phone reading fees have stayed at the lower rate of $190 to make it affordable for everyone and I plan to keep them there! Also, while most phone readings are done on Tuesday and Wednesdays between 8am-noon E.T. and can now be scheduled online www.shellyfrey.com , I have opened up for the first time ever some VERY LIMITED evening and weekend hours for those that just can’t make those morning hours, they do fill quickly though and you’ll need to call to reserve the special hours (they can’t be scheduled online).
In person readings: The ONLY way to do an in person reading is if I come to you. It’s easier than ever to have me come to you! The fees are lower than ever! Many people schedule me come to them for less than a phone reading fee & the biggest news….THERE IS NO LONGER A MINIMUM REQUIRED # OF PEOPLE…..YOU NO LONGER HAVE TO HAVE A GROUP OR A CERTAIN # OF PEOPLE TO HAVE ME COME! It’s easier than ever to schedule me for an in person reading, just pick up the phone…that’s it, you simply call John 717-816-1258 & he can get you scheduled, no worrying about number of people & I’ll come for private individual readings or GROUPS at your location or at my hotel. THE ONLY WAY TO GUARANTEE YOU WILL HAVE YOUR OWN IN PERSON READING WITH ME IS TO SCHEDULE ME TO COME TO YOU BY CALLING JOHN.
*You can also put in a request for me to come to your area to do private readings instead of scheduling me yourself, the difference is, you are only requesting and there are NO GUARANTEES. You are simply requesting I visit your area. Just call John 717-816-1258. I occasionally will travel randomly (without anyone actually scheduling me) to various cities doing private readings (not groups or shows) at local hotels across the country. Typically these areas are selected based on cities with the highest requests so spread the word & have others call too! There are no guarantees as I may never be in your area or I may never return once there. There are very limited spots for these private readings & those spots usually fill quickly. These locations are always posted on my website, announced on social media such as Facebook, and sent out to my email distribution list (see below how to join).
To summarize, To see me in person, you have to call John 717-816-1258, fees will always be different because they are always based on hotel charges & distance, but will be lower than ever before, the best way (and only way to guarantee a reading) is to schedule me yourself but you could possibly get lucky & do a private reading if I happen to be doing readings at a hotel near you, by calling to request I visit your area, having others do the same and then keeping an eye out and hoping for the best.
Following: Following me is easier now too! While in person private reading dates at hotels do fill up quickly, the fastest place to see them is always on Facebook, so be sure to not only become a fan of the page, but also “subscribe” to the feed there (simply liking the page doesn’t guarantee you’ll see all the posts), You can also join my email list straight from my website on the home page www.shellyfrey.com.
*Just an added note, look for more changes to the website soon, like cool VIDEO testimonials!
There you go…hopefully, with all the changes now in affect (the lower fees, no more minimum # of people required to schedule me, adding a few evening phone reading dates per year, being able to request an area & being able to call John directly to schedule) the process is much easier for all of you because we are in this together. The whole reason John & I quit our jobs to do this full time is because we know there are so many people in pain over losing a loved one & we understand the need to connect with those passed loved ones, we are hoping this makes it a little easier for all of you to get your reading, to get your peace!
ON A SIDE NOTE,
*COMING SOON MAYBE: Have you ever seen the headlines & wondered what a psychic or medium would be thinking or "seeing" about a particular event, like national or world events...missing planes, celebrity deaths, murders, missing persons, etc..? I'm considering starting a new segment on my website called "Psychic Views on the News" which would be regularly updated with current news headlines & my views and perspectives, not so much based on my own personal opinions, but sharing my psychic visions of what really happened or what will happen...is this something of interest, is this something you would check in on? Would you see a news story and instantly think "What did Shelly "see" about this? I want your honest feedback. Give me your comments by email or Facebook just mention "Psychic Views of the News". Thanks :)
I wrote a comment on my Facebook Page & my personal Facebook this morning, some of my 11000 fans & friends saw it & it is because of their encouragement that I have the nerve to write this blog. I usually have no problem sharing every detail of my life (as a psychic medium & my personal family life) with the world. I want people to know I'm honest & I want people to know I'm an average person with real emotions, problems, family, insecurities, etc just like everyone else; but for the first time I fear what people will think of me if I write about this experience, not just strangers, but relatives, acquaintances, friends & neighbors, etc...will they think I've lost my mind? If I were in their shoes, I might think that, but I assure you I have not. Every word you are about to read is the absolute truth and not just what I "believe" to be true...it really is true. My husband, John, is a kind, intelligent, level headed man,& he has witnessed everything I am about to describe & explain. He & I have tried a million ways to prove these things as coincidence (which neither of us believe in now) or some other scientific or rational explanation & we just can't because there is no other reason, so sit back & buckle up because you are about to take a ride with us for a few minutes, just be happy your ride will end in only a few minutes :)
This specific part of my crazy psychic life started last year on September 11th as I reflected on the tragic events that had unfolded years before…
September 11 2013: I began getting visions/images/signs or whatever you want to call it making me think more than I had in the past about that days events so many years earlier (I had questioned that day before but even more now), so I started researching things like the flight 93 (something important to keep in mind here, many people have favorite or lucky numbers mine have always been 3 & 9 & 11 even way b4 the Sept 11th tragedy partly because my passed Pap who I was very close to had 9 & 11 as his fav & my bday is Oct 3rd) so the flight # alone caught my eye, then I found many videos & articles online about conspiracy theories connected to that plane that supposedly went down in PA, the state I happen to live in; among other theories & my own opinion & vision--while not a conspiracy theorist ever before, I do not believe we were told the truth abou the events of the tragic events of September 11th!
Late September 2013 while driving to Philly to do readings, I was researching online certain events so I Googled "911, flight 93, & JFK” (I have my own psychic beliefs that these events were connected somehow, someone from the spirit world just kept putting these thoughts in my head & I couldn't let it go), one of the 1st search results on Google says "John Lennon sings the song Imagine for the 1st time live on the Dick Cavett Show" & then the date...I couldn't believe my eyes...you guessed it...9/11/71....I knew there was more here than a coincidence & it was pieces to a puzzle but who's trying to show me? What are the chances that a song about peace is performed live for the first time on Sept 11th? So I ask my hubby John what he knows about John Lennon. ...together we knew he was a hippy, an icon, singer in the Beatles, had passed (John thought he had been shot but we later realized we were only young children at the time-he was 3 & I was only 8 then), & didn't even know much about his music. I had never mentioned his name, I wasn’t a fan, I didn’t hate the Beatles or John Lennon, but John knew a few of their songs...about that time we arrived at a rest stop to grab a bite, as we were walking in the song playing over their speakers changed...John looked at me & said Oh my God that's John Lennon. ..I said you are kidding, he smiled & said...nope..the song "Instant Karma"...I said "someone is sending me a message”, maybe something about John Lennon or something in his lyrics. I really thought it was my Pap…I had been having a hard time with people on John’s side of the family, as well as other people in life. I had really been doing a lot of readings and the more I connected with the other side, the more I struggled with this world. I’m not an angel, and I don’t claim to be perfect, but the more medium work I do, the sadder I get. Humanity is cruel. I’m a huge defender for the rights of people. I will stand up & fight for what’s right, no matter where I am or who it’s with, I do not tolerate anyone judging another person in any way, not based on ethnicity or skin color, not based on sexual preference, or income, I don’t stand for bullying or anything even close to it and I never have…my mom says I was born this way but really didn’t get so emotional about it until later in life and certainly didn’t get so outspoken about it and let it affect me until I started doing more and more readings. I have spent many nights crying over the things I have seen on Facebook or the comments I hear at the bank or in my own driveway and not always directed at me, in fact, often they have nothing to do with me; but for some reason, I feel this desire to make everything right in the world, and while many people are good people…most people can state their opinion and move on, but I have been struggling with it, so I thought my Pap was coming through trying to tell me something about September 11th and the Kennedy assassination and how some things are connected OR trying to make me feel better about the peace and humanity I had been struggling with. As the months went on, I occasionally got messages or signs that again would make the name John Lennon pop in my head, so I’d get on a kick and start researching things like September 11th and his name, I found some interesting things about how he loved and was obsessed with the #9 (just like me) his birthday was October 9th (mine is October 3rd), our birthday is 6 days apart and yet another #9…I then listened to the song Imagine, almost daily…crying sometimes when I heard it, smiling others, I made it my ringtone on my cellphone. I kept it that for a few weeks, but then Thanksgiving came and I changed the ringtone (as I do every year) to my favorite Christmas song (I believe there are angels among us). During this time, one day my cell phone rang, but instead of the Angel song, out of nowhere, "Imagine" started playing…I had no idea why, I had changed it at least a week or more before and it had been playing the Angel song with no problem, was it a glitch in the programming of the phone? Why on earth would that happen? It just played as my ringtone on it’s own! BUT I ALWAYS have problems with electronics because I use energy to connect with spirit, so I really didn’t think much of it. As the next few months went by, someone kept giving me signs from the other side, the same person who made the “Imagine” Ringtone play on my cell, the same person who made the song “Instant Karma” play on the speakers at the rest stop, the one who wanted me to see the flight #93 that supposedly went down in PA, the same one who wanted me to see the first time John Lennon performed Imagine was on September 11th, I then had a dream which I described in detail in a webisode that described the Boston Marathon Bombing in specific detail before it happened, I knew every detail except in the dream, I thought it was the Pentagon, not Boston…..who showed me that in the dream and why show me all of this if I can’t stop it, what’s the connection between John Lennon and all the rest? I was driving to Connecticut after the tragic Sandy Hook school shootings & I kept saying “please show me a sign, whoever has been trying to tell me something, I’m not understanding…what does it all mean” and on a license plate on a car that was passing just as I said that it said 2ADAMS. Now we all know a kid named Adam Lanza did that horrific day of shootings, right? Research it! There are many videos that show more than one person being chased, even a recording in which law authorities clearly say “We have 1 down, chasing the other one”, what happened to the 1 they had down? You can see him down in the video in the woods? There were many more signs coming to me (I don't even remember them all) The Movie Theater shootings, the Navy Yard Shootings, all of these things, I got signs & symbols, little things, not all predictions (only the Boston Marathon was a prediction….all trying to get me to connect the dots…but I could never figure out who was trying to tell me what….until recently and today it was confirmed.
I now know because yesterday I told my husband John that I think these messages aren’t necessarily showing me a connection between these events and John Lennon, maybe there is and maybe there isn’t, but I believe the messages are coming FROM JOHN LENNON HIMSELF! I know how crazy that sounded, but why would anyone else keep showing me his songs? Could I really be talking to John Lennon? I had been looking at his songs, and I believe the lyrics show us that he too had abilities like mine and he had similar beliefs to mine.
So I asked him out loud yesterday in the car “John Lennon, if I’m not crazy and you are the one coming to me all this time, trying to give me signs, trying to tell me something, please give me a specific sign so I’ll know it’s coming from you directly. I honestly forgot about it, we are in CT at a hotel, I have readings tomorrow. We were heading out this morning. I went out to the car ahead of John, he was going to the bathroom. I opened the trunk, threw my purse in, closed it, opened my door, sat in my seat and looked up to see John walking toward the car. He opened the door and said “What are all those white feathers doing all over our car?”, I said “What white feathers?” He said, “The ones covering our car, they are all over it!”; I smiled (remembering that I had read something about John Lennon & him saying to his family that he would leave white feathers if he could visit them from the other side after he passed), I said “You are kidding me” as I was getting out, I looked in awe…..feathers everywhere, of all sizes….dove feathers…..peace feathers, white ones….on the windshield on top of the car, on the hood, the doors, sticking in the doors, everywhere! It was amazing, we had pulled into the hotel lot yesterday around 4:30pm straight from the highway, neither of us left until 9:45am today, it’s a fairly busy area, parking lot full…other cars with dew right beside us had been there all night too, not a single feather…we even made laps around the lot, not one feather even on the ground only our car, covered in white feathers. I was smiling from ear to ear all day! I googled “John Lennon spirit white feathers” and found a ton of stuff, there is NO doubt in my mind, he was the one who left them to answer my question, he had been giving me the signs all along. Then someone on Facebook asked about these signs & I remembered something, on the day of the Sandy Hook Tragedy, I wrote a poem, I grabbed a piece of paper and just started writing and I wrote it really fast, almost as if the thoughts were inspired….someone posted it on a thread on my Facebook today…and I can’t help but wonder, did he inspire me to write it? I know it sounds crazy, but is there a message in that poem? I believe that many events of loss and tragedy are not as they appear, I believe I’m on to something with these messages. I am not crazy and I’m not a conspiracy nut, but I’m a Believer (oh wait, John says that was the monkees) J I will continue listening to the messages and trying to put the puzzle together while also trying to fight for peace and stand up for what’s right, even if I’m standing alone!
Joan Rivers…. a comic genius. Many consider her a comic icon. Sadly, in the past few days, the news of her tragic trip to the hospital has social media swirling with information. As of the writing of this blog, she hasn’t passed…yet. There are rumors circulating that she has, but those are just rumors, sadly, I have to stress, from a psychic medium perspective, I feel strongly those rumors will soon become a reality. As I’m writing this blog she is in the hospital on life support, her daughter Melissa being faced with one of the most difficult decisions (probably THE most difficult decision) that any human being will ever have to face….removing someone from life support.
I do so many readings with people who have lived for years with guilt after making this decision, regardless of how long they waited or what their final decision was. In light of what is going on with Ms. Rivers, I thought I would share my thoughts on this from a psychic perspective.
I believe (based on what spirit has told me during readings) there is no wrong answer here. The loved ones often feel one way during their life on this topic and will express it. For example, in the case of Joan Rivers, I psychically feel that she does not want to continue on life support and has probably in the past expressed to her family to discontinue life support in this type of a situation; however, most of the time, after a spirit has passed, they come through during a reading and tell me that as they were on the life support, they were already visiting Heaven…they were already beginning their process of visiting the other side, going through the process of crossing over & while sometimes were aware of what was going on around them in the hospital room, they were already finding their peace. They really wouldn’t have minded if their family needed more time with them and didn’t follow through with their wishes to immediately remove the life support, BUT, they also tell me that if they had previous told their family they wanted to remain on life support and once they were in that situation, the family had chosen to remove the life support, they were not upset at all and were still at peace & happy that the family didn’t suffer by having the burden of watching them in that state (on life support at the hospital). What I’m saying is basically this, once your loved one is passed, most of the time, they are not upset either way in regards to the life support debate regardless of what their wishes were in life & regardless if those wishes had been fulfilled, their only concern is that the family did what was best for themselves at the time so that they would find their peace the easiest and fastest way.
I’m not saying that I expect this will make that decision or the process for Joan, Melissa, or any family that has dealt or will deal with this situation any easier….this is never an easy choice, but I’m explaining that from what I have learned during my readings, your loved ones are at peace and not upset with the decision at all, regardless of the outcome.
In closing, I do feel that Joan Rivers will be leaving our world in the VERY near future and it’s a sad day for us, we have certainly been blessed to have had her here for so long making us smile and laugh, which is what she loved to do, but she will be going to Heaven & I’m sure, she’ll be telling her jokes there too! All my love & best wishes to her family!
Is it possible to get an appointment with Theresa Caputo Long Island Medium? Almost! New Season Today August 3 2014
I have written many blogs about Theresa Caputo from the hit tv show Long Island Medium. Sometimes my own fans ask me why I write about her so often, the answer is simple, I'm very sad to see how many people are in so much pain and trying to get an appointment with Theresa Caputo, knowing that they will likely never get one. It's heartbreaking to watch her Facebook Page. There are thousands of unanswered posts, all from people just begging for a response, most of which are just wanting a simple question answered "How Do I get an appointment or a reading with Theresa Caputo"? The fact of the matter is....it's basically impossible. While no one seems to know the exact answer to this question, and as rumors swirl around social media, the true answer seems to be, it's impossible, almost. There seems to be a wait list, oh the famous wait list, but to get on this mysterious wait list, seems to be as likely as hitting the lottery. It seems as though producers of the show choose about 10 people out of hundreds of thousands to get a reading. I'm not blaming or criticizing Theresa Caputo in any way. I know that being on a tv show has brought her fans from all over the world, bringing exposure that the rest of us mediums can only imagine having to deal with, but my heart goes out to each and every person who truly needs to connect with their loved one and hopes to get a reading with her. Those people who can't find peace without a reading and haven't found the true answer to their problem...there are many mediums (myself being one) who can help them just as well as Theresa Caputo. If you read my reviews you'll see that many of my past clients and fans have said my readings were very similar to Theresa's with spot on validation that would give you goosebumps and bring tears to your eyes, but if you only believe what you see on TV, you are missing out on so many miracles in this world. I do phone readings and readings face to face. I have a small wait list and your call is answered or returned within a few days....so I continue writing these blogs in the hopes that some of these people in pain will find me or a medium like me and realize that while they likely will never get a reading with Theresa Caputo, they can still get a reading with a caring, honest, reputable medium and isn't that what's really important? I continue writing these blogs while praying that somehow in Google and Facebook land, the blog circulates enough to help some of these lost souls who have been waiting years to talk to a passed loved one, and maybe...just maybe, they will find me through this blog and I can help them do just that!
Theresa Caputo has been doing on TV what I do everyday in my life, helping people find peace by connecting with their loved ones. The Long Island Medium Theresa Caputo season premier happens in March. Here are the questions I get most often & my answers. 1-Do you know what Theresa charges? I have not been able to find her fees on a website that is directly affiliated with her or her show; however, in my research I have talked to a few people that have had sessions with her. According to them, it seems the price for a 30 minute session is around $600 in her local area-more if she travels and more for private groups. I cannot say for certain this is accurate, as I only know what I'm being told by others. 2-How do I get an appointment with her? To the best of my knowledge, Theresa Caputo is no longer scheduling new appiontments. I did see numerous requests on the facebook page & follow up comments that she had not been responding- in all fairness to her, I must interject, it's virtually impossible to respond to every request or comment/question I receive, she's on TV...I think it's obvious she couldn't possibly schedule a session with everyone who contacts her. She has mentioned in several interviews that it's now a 5 year+ wait for a session. 3- Are you as good as Theresa? I do feel my sessions are similar in manner, accuracy, and style to Theresa's, I cannot honestly say I am or am not as good or better than her. I think we are equally blessed with this gift. 4-Do you think she takes advantage of people by charging so much or by not doing this for free? Not at all...this is her profession, she has a gift & like me, I'm sure she only wants to help people, this is NOT as easy as people might think. She deserves to be paid just like anyone else in any profession. Please read my previous blog regarding psychics medium & fees for more info. 5-Do you feel you are in competition with Theresa? Absolutely not! I honestly feel we are very similar, but not competitors...there is plenty of need for our services. I often do sessions with clients while they wait on the 2+year waiting list or because they didn't get a response as of yet when they contacted her. I realize she has much more exposure & a hit T.V. show and I'm just as big of a fan as the rest! Please keep in mind, I'm in no way connected to Theresa on a business or personal level. I have much admiration for her and feel that she has done an amazing thing for people like me who have this ability. Every week she shows the world what it is like to do what I do. As my family & I sit and watch her show, which we record/DVR, we are constantly pausing to reflect on how much this family is like ours. It may sound strange to hear this from someone like me (I do see dead people after all) but it completely shocks me every time I watch it! I can't believe how similar we are. It makes me think there must be a class on the other side that we took before we were born or something. I mean, here's this lady that I have never met who talks like me (a little bolder than me), says word for word what I say, not only during her sessions, but to her kids & husband, has similar interest, facial expressions, etc.... I can't even really explain how similar our lives are in one blog, but it validated for me that this was DEFINITELY something that was planned out before we ever came to this world. As I continue to watch her during her sessions & in her everyday life, I realize, just how much of my life was planned before I was ever born, as that is the only explanation I can come up with as to how 2 strangers can have so much in common. I will continue to support her and watch her show & I encourage everyone else to do the same! If you are in need of a reading yourself, please call or text my office 717-816-1258, there is currently a fairly short wait list.
Last night for my nephew's 21st Birthday John & I took him to a casino (only for a few hours but we had a blast), some of my most memorable readings are the ones I do for free with strangers...I don't do it often, but sometimes a spirit is just too strong to ignore...I was sitting at a Blackjack table with 3 or 4 other people(all strangers) & a dealer trying to just relax, suddenly the pit boss walked up and asked me "So Shelly, what do you do for a living?"...I immediately thought, here we go again....oh why me, these people are going to think I'm crazy, but I hesitantly said, "I'm a medium", I was happy at the response from both the pit boss & dealer, both believed in the afterlife and that mediums existed and neither thought I was strange or at least that's what they said. After a few minutes of playing, the Pit Boss came over again to our table, asking me general questions that I get a lot about how this works for me & such, I told him that as we were talking, I kept getting a name...I explained that I didn't know if the male spirit coming through was giving me his own name or the name of someone at the table, maybe even the name of a loved one still living, so I usually ignore it...it's very difficult with so many people for me to know who the spirit is directing the message too, so I typically ignore it. I said "I just keep getting the name Tony, over & over again"...the guy beside me said, I know who that is....I looked at him, this total stranger & said, "Just to be certain this message is for you, let me tell you more...."He says he's worried about Tony which is why he's bringing him up", he said yes, "Tony is in prison & has a lot going on, he's in a bad place in his life right now"...I said ok...Do you know who MaryAnn is?" He said...yes, that's my mom....I couldn't believe it....I do this all the time, readings are my job, but sometimes I still can't believe how specific spirit can be.....I then talked to this guy for close to an hour while continuing to play at the table, telling him everything I was seeing & hearing...explaining that I had a male coming through for him who passed young in life, showing me a vehicle accident, he said to his brother (the man sitting right beside me at the casino) tell him I love him but he's made some really bad choices in life & he knows what I mean, he has good intentions but he's going about things the wrong way....mom can't handle anymore pain, please think about things before you make bad choices".....the guy told me it was his brother coming through, and he knew exactly what he meant. The spirit also mentioned a baby that was coming to the family soon...the guy new this was about his nephew. He also gave me other details of validation and messages of hope and love. As we continued to play, the guy beside me was quiet for a little while, he then looked at me & said, "I'm going to tell you the truth...I sell drugs sometimes, I know it's the wrong thing to do and you just changed my life....starting today, starting now, my life is going to be different. I knew my brother was with me & I really needed to hear that, you just changed my life". I couldn't stop thinking about him during the entire drive home. I hope he does change something negative into his life & I hope he found some peace. I love the sessions that are completely random like that...no payment, no pressure, I just tell everything I'm being told & can only hope I'm making a difference. I obviously didn't include the man's name for his privacy, but we did exchange contact information & I am hoping I hear from him in the near future.
If I told you, you could call up Heaven & set up a time to meet with your loved one, would you? Would you drive for hours to meet with them? Would you spend the time and money just for that last chance to say Goodbye, or to say Hello?, to ask them questions about their life in spirit or questions about their final moments? Well you can…at least that’s what thousands of people have told me after doing a reading. For them, it was like meeting with their passed loved one and many continue to do it on a regular basis after that first time because it’s like visiting with their loved one in Heaven for a while on earth. I do both phone and in person readings, I’m often asked which is better…..
I always prefer face to face readings over phone readings, not because phone readings aren't good, they are, but because I often get clearer more direct information when I'm sitting with someone than just speaking to them over the phone. I never know the client, not even their first name most of the time, they are scheduled by a host, usually their friend or family member. I arrive & go in a different room from the group, one at a time, people enter the room, sit down with me, not saying a word, I just begin speaking...having no idea who they are or a single thing about their life. The client often describes it as actually sitting down talking to their loved one and that's exactly what it often feels like. Here are just a few examples of what loved ones have said or talked about during recent readings that I did face to face in person with a complete stranger, or was it?!:
A lady who passed in her 20s came through, the first thing she said to my female client was that she had passed quickly, her body had been missing, and that foul play was involved, she then apologized that she had put herself in the situation she had, that ultimately caused her death, she described the 3 people who were involved, told me how and why she had been murdered, gave me the name of someone involved, even his birthday. She then gave me a secret password "bologna", I call it a password because it was the one word that convinced the client beyond a doubt that she wasn't talking to me, but was in fact talking to her sister, who had passed almost 15 years earlier....after the reading she explained to me that she and her sister would spend many nights late after coming home from a night of bar hopping, eating bologna sandwiches and just talking and having fun. The sister could hardly believe it when the word bologna came from my mouth, but it did...along with many other private details. After the reading she hugged me, telling me that she felt like she was visiting with her sister, and hugging her goodbye, until next time, which for her is about twice a year.
Another lady I recently sat with had someone come through and tell me she was older, like a Grandma and showed me that she passed from a health issue with the lungs, the client immediately was certain she knew who this was, as I continued, she quickly learned it was not at all who she thought it was or expected it to be, she had done sessions with me in the past but I of course didn't remember her...she assumed the same spirit would come through, boy was she wrong...I began to tell her exactly what I was being told "Tell her she's not one for jewelry but she wears the ring", I repeated this and the client looked at me like I was crazy, she said that just isn't true, I have no idea what she's talking about, she has come through before but never mentioned a ring and I don't have any jewelry from anyone”, I continued to argue with her for a good five minutes repeating it over and over "you are not one for jewelry but you wear the ring" and the client continued telling me she wouldn't say that and I was wrong, then it hit her, you could see her face, as if looking at me were looking at a ghost, she began to cry and said "Oh my God, that's not who I thought it was, that's my Grandma...she has never come through and I completely forgot, I am wearing her wedding ring, I never take it off and have worn it for so long, I completely forgot it was even her ring". She also felt as if she had just spent time talking to her Grandma. I didn't give up, I continued repeating because it wasn't me...it was her Grandma, speaking through me, strong personality and arguing, not willing to give up.
These are just two examples of why you are not setting an appointment with me, but instead with your passed loved ones. This is also why I strongly feel if you can do a reading in person, you really should. If you have read my details on Facebook of what comes through during phone sessions, you will see that phone sessions can be just as touching and amazing as well, but nothing beats the in person reading!
How do you get an in person reading? While phone readings can be scheduled on my website using the schedule now button, in person sessions are much harder to get…I do not do them in my home office. There are only 3 ways to schedule an in person reading:
1-Host me! It’s really pretty easy. You call/text John, my husband (he handles all the scheduling) 717-816-1258, you tell him your city and state. He will give you the fee info. The fee is always based on your distance from me and the hotel expenses in your area. I will come to you. There is NO LONGER a minimum number of people required, he just gives you a total fee that you pay to have me come. This fee is for 1-10 people, if you have more than 10 people, he will explain how that works…you also have the choice if each person wants a private reading or all together- fee is the same regardless.
2-Have a host invite you. Often times a friend or family member will be having me come, just ask them to include you.
3-Catch me if you can! I travel just a few times per year doing shows or private readings at venues, usually hotels, I will always announce on my Facebook and website www.shellyfrey.com . These are only done a few times and almost always in the northeast part of the country, space is extremely limited so be sure to catch me when you can.
Of course, not everyone can do one of these three things to see me in person, for those that can't, please schedule your appointment on my website for a phone reading, phone sessions are still a wonderful appointment with your passed loved one.
What have others said after their readings?
Just click the REVIEWS tab on my website to read honest reviews from people just like you, most of whom were complete strangers that had never met me before their readings.
I get so many questions about what my life is like or how things 'work" for me and in the afterlife. I sometimes forget that while these things are just a given for me & a part of my life as common knowledge, there are many beliefs out there in regards to me & what I do that people just don't automatically know the truth....how would you? It's not something everyone would just know....even other mediums experience things differently, so here's the biggest myths and misconceptions I hear or have been asked about....please feel free to share your comments, ideas, and questions too!
1. Shelly is so lucky, she sees and knows everything about everyone.
This is probably one of the biggest myths there is. I don't always just know where your husband is when he says he is going golfing, or where your missing necklace is or who your real dad is. I don't know what your deepest secrets and thoughts are and I certainly can't tell you what lotto numbers to play. While I can "see" more into your life than the average person & all of the things I just mentioned sometimes do just come to me, It's usually much harder than that...I usually have to go through the same relaxation and connecting technique that I do when I'm doing a session, I have to call in my angels and spirit guides, your angels and spirit guides, I have to really focus my mind on the question at hand & rarely get a direct answer...for example...I don't see your husband in a bar with his friends having a Coors Light & discussing his lie to you about being at the golf course, I may see that he isn't where he says, I may get a name...possibly his middle name or a name of someone he is sitting near or the bartender, I might hear a song that is playing in the background, but chances are, you or I will not even understand what those things mean. I rarely can just get asked a question and immediately know the answer.
2. I wish I could have the easy job Shelly does, she must make a ton of money working from home just a few hours a week or better yet, she does sessions for 40 hours a week.....if you do the math of the session fees, she's raking in the money.
This could NOT be further from the truth. There is a lot more than people realize that goes into this job. It is not a career that anyone (after really understanding what goes into it) would choose to do like going to college for a degree as a medium....My husband and I sacrifice a lot, we work long hours, are constantly away from our kids, meet strangers at hotels without really knowing if we are safe, deal with some very mentally unstable individuals-people who threaten everything from harming us to fake blackmail to suicide and everything in between. We get calls 24/7, some emergencies....many hang ups in the middle of family game night with our kids or just a relaxing dinner. I can't go out in public without either being recognized or having spirits come through to the point where I can't even finish what I'm trying to do.....and after all of this, the income is the same and some months less, than we made at our previous jobs....I am not doing sessions full time, that would be much too draining and just isn't possible. In addition to all of this, we have lost friends and family who simply do not believe in what we do-thinking it's evil or non-existant...No, this is certainly not a career that most people would choose...it chose me!
3. If I can do a reading with Shelly, she will solve all my problems, make my life worth living, make it all better, etc...
There are many people who have readings/sessions with me in which they find ultimate peace after years of heartache or get all their questions answered before even asking, but this is not always the case, this is the 1st step in a long journey, much like counseling, many people need numerous readings to connect and reconnect with their loved ones to find that peace or those answers.
4. Oh, I forgot to ask XYZ during my session, I think I'll ask Shelly or I just realized what she meant during my reading when my loved one said this, I need to ask her if XYZ is what he meant or I don't need a full session, I just have one quick question for her that I need answered.
I get a ton of emails and messages from people asking me for things outside of a session or after a session. I simply can't just answer these questions, as described in the previous question #1 above, there is an entire process to this and I do sessions before and after yours, so I don't remember most of your session once I have dialed the next number. Also, when I'm done with sessions or have a day off, I am thinking about my life, my family, etc... not connecting with the other dimensions. If I kept myself connected 24/7 in case anything comes through or to answer your "1 question" I would be so stressed and drained, I wouldn't be able to use my gift at all.
5. Shelly must read people's minds just for the fun of it or to see how they really feel.
I have a full busy life, connecting with the other side is mentally, emotionally, & physically draining, and so is focusing on other people's thoughts and minds. I have no desire to know what others are thinking, I see and hear enough without that...just because I can sometimes do it, doesn't mean I want to! I don’t see people in the mall or on the street and try to "see" what their life is like, I have no desire to know and when it comes to me automatically, I try to block it or leave their vicinity, I just don't need that drama.
6. This must be like a drug for Shelly, she probably has so much energy.
This is completely the opposite of the truth. I am more tired than ever and have difficulty ever relaxing...I don't remember the last time I slept for more than an hour or two at a time. If you look at my photos before I admitted to the world I could do this and started doing it professionally, then look at my photos now, I have aged well beyond the time I should have.
7. Shelly is so blessed, she has a perfect life.
TRUST ME...none of us have a perfect life. I am very blessed with many things (this gift, my family, my husband and children, health, etc...) but we all have our drama, no ones life is perfect, including mine. I am a normal human being and have the normal faults within myself and the same family, financial, minor health, etc.. issues that you have.
8.Shelly isn't really communicating and she's scamming people, no one can talk to the dead.
There are thousands of reviews and testimonials on my website, my Facebook page, and individual unbiased 3rd party websites saying otherwise. Sure, I know that there may be some people who will believe anything and often I get the same "Cold Reader" accusations as all other mediums & psychics, but the truth is, most of these reviews are from sane, smart, skeptical people who first came to me with no expectations, telling me nothing, not even their name, and I was able to give them very private, specific details about their life that can't be explained...how would I know that stuff? They aren't reaching to make it fit, it's not vague or general, it's specific and detailed.....It's coming from somewhere and I believe I am communicating not only with the dead, but have the ability to read minds, to psychically know things, and to communicate with other dimensions (spirit guides and angels). Just because you can't hear or see it doesn't mean I'm just really good at reading body language or guessing, the things I have been able to tell are not even close to things that would be guessed. I never pressure anyone to do a reading and I have nothing to hide, I'm an open book and very public with my life...I have no private life and trust me, this is way more work and stress than anyone would ever do to scam people out of a few hundred bucks....many times, I leave a group making next to nothing because of the time out of office I'm not doing phone sessions, the hotel and gas expense, etc..... why would I do that all for a lie? It makes no sense, because it isn't true. I get to help people...as long as I have people that are truly helped and find peace, I will continue doing this...yes, it is my job and it pays the bills, but I could do many other jobs that pay the bills for a lot less stress.
9. Shelly is communicating with other dimensions, but it's pure evil, those spirits are at rest and she's disturbing them.
This is ridiculous but you wouldn't believe how many people believe in afterlife, believe that I am talking to the dead, but also believe it's evil and I'm going to the place they call Hell for it.....this is simply so much of a misconception all I can say is, you can't believe every detail you read, even if it is in a book called the Bible. We are living in Hell already in this world, this is a gift from God and I was given it so I could use it.
10. Shelly is so strong, she never cries during sessions and seems to be always happy.
While I love my life and this gift, I am not as strong as you think. I cry watching Bambi....I am very emotionally fragile, if you deal with heartache, sorrow, and death and see the ugliest parts of the world all day everyday, it definitely shatters your strength. As a psychic medium, I struggle everyday with separating other people's problems and sorrows and living my life....do you know how hard it is to watch your teenager leave in the car, only hours after doing a reading for someone who's teen son with the same name or birthday, passed in a car accident?......I do have strength of faith and family, but I'm also very fragile.
11. Shelly charges too much or should work for free.
Would you go in to work tomorrow for free? Why should I? If you are a nurse, do you take double shifts on the weekend at a hospital that is hours away, leaving your children for days on end for free or less pay because you are helping people? of course not, in a perfect world, we would all be able to do this, but I have to pay my bills as you do, so just as you wouldn’t work for free, nor do. The time I put into this and the expenses of hotels and travel, etc... are definitely too much of an expense and to much pressure on my family to do this for free or for any less than I charge now. You are literally making an appointment with your passed loved one, it amazes me the number of people who question the price of that!
12. Shelly should time her sessions, I want to know in advance exactly how long sessions are.
This is one of the craziest things I have ever heard. This is not a Science, I am not God...just as I can't see and know everything about you or your life, I can't possible know what will happen during a session or how long it will last. All are different and I never know what I'm getting. I refuse to just tell your relatives to leave because a timer goes off-that's cruel.
I hope this clears up some of the misconceptions and myths I have heard about me and my life as a psychic medium. I love what I do, and it's definitely worth the sacrifice and difficulties I deal with to be able to help others find peace. I honestly don't know why there are so many people criticizing those of us that do this, if people find peace and are happy, why do they care? No one is forcing them to do a reading or connect with their own passed loved ones....I think, at least for some, it's because they don't have their own happiness, so they don't want others to be happy either, it's a sad but true fact. At this point in my life, there's nothing else I would rather do, but trust me, I didn't "choose" this....it chose me.
Completely Skeptic, Pleasantly Shocked- While A Lady Awaiting A Response From Long Island Medium, She Gets Shelly Frey Instead!
I try to regularly write a quick recap of my readings every week for those interested in things that come through during sessions, I don't always have the time right away, but I do it as often as I can...but this one is different, this is a story that I needed to tell:
I had a lady on the phone who was extremely skeptical, she watched Long Island Medium & believed that some people have the ability to communicate with the dead, but she really wanted a session with Theresa Caputo because she trusted her from seeing her on tv....like so many others, she tried for an appointment, but never got a reply, so she called my husband (she found his number on my website, she had stumbled upon while researching mediums), as she was dialing, she was thinking of me more as a back up plan...hoping something would come through during a reading, but preparing herself that it probably wouldn't (she already had in her mind that I was probably just another medium doing "cold reading" or pulling information out of my clients)....she was pleasantly surprised & really more in shock when she had her session....I called her on her scheduled day, I think she was somewhere in the middle on the list (John just gives me a list of names and phone numbers and I call in the order they are on the list), I quickly explained to her how normally when I do a session, spirit gets more talkative and stronger a few minutes in & in the beginning it's normally more about validating who they are. She was very polite and extremely quiet, not doing much talking other than the occasional "ok". Most clients at least tell me yes they know what the spirit is talking about or in some way confirm that they at least think they know who it is, but she didn't...making it much more difficult because for all I knew, this was a relative of extended family that had passed 70 years ago.....but I just kept repeating....the spirit came through instantly telling me his name, birthday, and date of passing (this is extremely rare for me, I typically get one of those pieces of info, but all 3...I thought to myself that something must be wrong with this as it's never that spot with SO much info right away), she just kept saying ok, ok & nothing else... He explained that he was her boyfriend when they were younger, over 20 years ago...he then proceeded to show me images of his passing, a very strange passing because he had actually went on a beach trip with friends, disappeared, and never been found (spirit doesn't explain it that way specifically, first he showed me the beach, then a question mark, then said something about a missing person)-as I always attempt to, I put the puzzle together and said to her "I think he's saying he was missing at some point, possibly from a beach"....she again simply said "ok"....He then showed me that he had gotten in a truck with someone who offered to give him a ride back to his hotel because he couldn't find his friends, he had been drinking and so had the driver, the truck swerved from the road and went into the water, but it didn't look like the ocean, some lake or river, he had hit his head and ultimately drowned.....after all of this info, we are not about 40 minutes to an hour into her session & I really have no idea if she has any clue who this guy is, she then starts hysterically crying, I feel for her and hope she isn't crying of disappointment that a family member didn't come through, he then tells me to tell her, he wasn't upset with her and he should have listened, he is so sorry for the things he had said and he is with her and loves her, he approves of her husband and is glad she is happy and hopes she can move forward with her life, he even told me that he comes through to her by communicating with her youngest child (I found out later this is true and the child is less than a year old), he went on saying some other messages about his family and such...she then starts talking to me, it's a completely different person than I started the call with, her voice suddenly sounded relaxed and personable, she went from being polite to being friendly. She explained to me that no one knew she was doing this session, she didn't want to hurt her husband by letting him know how often she thinks of the male energy coming through... her childhood sweetheart had passed away on a Spring trip to the beach, they had been together into their late teens. She knew that this couldn't be researched ahead of time because he wasn't related to her and it was a LONG time ago, so if he came through, she knew it would be real. They had argued about him going without her before he left... His body was found, but he had been considered a missing person until the body was identified...she also explained that no one ever understood why he was in that truck or who the driver was/how they were connected...now she knew. She had lived for over 20 years with the guilt of the argument they had and worried he was angry with her. This has haunted her on a regular basis since it happened....she had thought her child had been looking and laughing at something she couldn't see herself, but didn't know what....we finished her session and then she explained to me how she had stumbled upon my website, read the testimonials and even watched videos, but had honestly thought it was all fake, just a scam or something.....she apologized for doubting and thanked me, saying that for the first time in over 20 years, she feels free....like a new life is beginning (she had gotten married, had children, and taken care of a sick Grandfather, but through it all she felt lost, her mind always going back, living with the guilt was killing her)....she said she is now able to live again, and has found her peace. I am keeping her name, as well as the spirit's name out of this for confidentiality as she requested, but felt her story needed to be told. I am hop this helps others to move forward in their lives, knowing that in the end, you don't have to live with the guilt, you can let go and be happy again. Enjoy what you have in life and don't let your peace be determined by your past.