Most of us understand that after we die, our soul lives on in a form of energy. We still love our family and in general, our spirit is full of complete & genuine love, the kind we can't even imagine in the living world, but what about romantic love? Are there really soul mates? Do we rekindle passion in the afterlife? YOU BET! In a different way than in this world, the love you have for another human is not the same in the afterlife. Love does exist, but it's always the same-an unconditional awe inspiring love, an emotion so strong that it literally makes your soul glow. Spirits do not share physical passion, there is no love making in our sense of the word....there is no physical body, so while the romance and feelings of romantic love are stronger than ever, there is no kissing, or touching. That's hard for us to comprehend in this world, since touch is such an important part of any healthy relationship, but energies in spirit can connect on a spiritual level and are completely satisfied with that. They feel the same intense (usually more) passion between them as we do in the physical world. They often describe it as the merging of two souls & while they are still each individual that "butterfly in your stomach" feeling you get when falling in love does continue in the afterlife. So what if one half of a perfect couple is living and the other is passed? The energy still exists...there's no denying true love. Even if the living person moves on to another relationship, they continue that spiritual bond with the spirit they are connected to. The spirits do not get jealous. In the afterlife you can share that love with multiple people and it's simply the normal way of the spirit world. This is why a spirit will often tell their living spouse or significant other during a reading that it's ok to move on, to find someone else and fall in love again. Each connection we make in this world carries over to the next. With Valentine's Day only a couple of weeks away, start watching for signs, often loved ones are VERY active during this time of heightened love in our world. You may notice signs or symbols like hearing a certain song come on the radio or have a dream of your loved one....yes, once two energies fall in love, it is in fact, an endless love.
I meet many people (by phone and in person) who come to me for various reasons. Some are coming to connect with passed loved ones, others to gain insight into their future, but many are simply looking for answers. They have been experiencing some odd things in their life and they don’t know who or what it is, they are often wondering if someone is reaching out from beyond the grave for a reason, do they have a specific message or just making their presence known? They are experiencing things like knocking on their walls, lights blinking, odd dreams/visits, seeing premonitions or even minor oddities like seeing the same number every day or a phone ringing with all zeros on the caller ID. I have heard it all and during a reading I am able to tell them if these “messages” are coming from a spirit, a ghost or both. Once I have determined what or who is trying to make their presence known, the next question I get is always the same “What’s the difference between a spirit and a ghost?”. In this blog, I’ll explain the difference between Spirits and Ghosts, how they came to be what they are, & where they came from.
Spirits are basically souls. The term "spirit" & the term "soul" can be used interchangeably. Spirits consist of energy, a beautiful energy full of white light. Spirits can be people who once walked in our world... people we knew and loved or who loved us, this can include family and friends, distant family (even generations back). Spirits can also be the souls of someone who lived in our world that we didn't know or had no connection to...people that once lived in our house or on our land, etc BUT, Spirits can also be guides, angels, etc., that come to visit people on this side of the grave to protect them and guide them or for a certain purpose at a specific time in their lives. These type of spirits are usually beings that did NOT walk on this earth or live in this world. We are all surrounded by spirits who "speak to us" with messages of support, guidance, encouragement and love. Some have specific messages and are trying to get our attention (that’s where I come in as a medium). Whether they are just trying to make their presence known or actually have an important message, they reach out in various ways, many make noises we hear or cause visions we see, others simply make their presence known in dreams or by moving objects, others give us symbols like butterflies or pennies, etc.. There are endless ways spirits make their presence known and attempt to communicate with us and these messages can be obvious or very subtle and often go unnoticed. Also, spirits may come to observe, watch over, and share experiences along side us. An example of this would be our loved ones joining in for a family wedding, not physically but in energy form from the afterlife. These people, or spirits, come from a higher dimension or plane, they exist in a world we often refer to as Heaven or the Afterlife, but can travel through various levels/dimensions/worlds because they are a higher being with higher intelligence and understanding of things that we simply cannot comprehend. An enlightened spirit will be of white light and always bring a presence of peace and joy. There, of course; may be unsettled spirits or spirits who haven't found total peace on the other side yet, but they are still very much full of love and are often yearning to find their peace in the afterlife. While these spirits can be mischievous in their methods of contact, they mean us no harm. This doesn't make them ghosts....the spirits as I have just described are never ghosts. After death, these spirits, even if troubled or unsettled, HAVE crossed over to the other plain, the afterlife, Heaven, the higher dimensions and started their life review, their lessons, their classes, and have evolved as the process is supposed to be.
Ghosts are a different story, ghosts are individuals who have not crossed over or evolved as of yet. Their present existence consists of darkness, they struggle with where they are and how they got there. Some do not realize they are even dead, others refuse to accept or believe it. Some are behaving like stubborn children, refusing to accept their parent's rules. While some ghosts just refuse to face the first step of crossing that plane. The Review. When a life in this world ends, it is simply leaving it's body, and the soul/spirit is immediately greeted by others who have made the journey before them-family & friends come to welcome them home, it's an emotional and overwhelming experience of love and hugs, reuniting and rekindling, a beautiful process that continues as the soul leaves the body and takes a journey through the light of the various realms, often referred to as the tunnel. As soon as a soul reaches mid-way through and the rest of the way through this tunnel, the life review starts. We not only must watch back how we behaved, the choices we made, how our life developed and unfolded, (it's like watching a movie that goes on for hours, some moments make you laugh but others make you cry, sometime you feel ashamed or hurt), but you must also watch the after affects, the things you don't have the privilege or knowledge to see in this world. How OTHERS felt & were affected by your actions. Along with the pain of watching the aftermath of your life's choices and actions, you are forced to watch the scene unfolding in the present, how are the people you love dealing with your passing, and you watch their future....yes, you actually watch the future of your family & friends, not every detail, but some of the big major moments, good and bad, you see it all......this process is the same for every single soul that passes. THIS IS WHERE IT'S DETERMINED, THIS IS THE POINT IN WHICH A PERSON'S ENERGY LIVES ON AS A SPIRIT OR CONTINUES AS A GHOST! The Ghosts are the ones who simply can't move past the REVIEW stage. They have attachments to this world, some trauma, unfinished business, or fear that have held them to an existence among the physical world. They simply can't participate in the entire review process. They are literally stuck, no matter what the reason, they refuse to listen or do not understand that their burdens will be let go as soon as they finish the review and they will then be able to visit this world within a short amount of time (some can visit our world immediately). Some ghosts are very active in our world but will never be able to communicate with us the same way a spirit can, they try....oh believe me they try, but it's just not the same, which only aggravates them more. Some ghosts can't or don't interact with us at all.They are simply stuck doing the same thing over and over again, reliving a memory (good or bad) often referred to as a residual haunting, but most ghosts are constantly seeking acknowledgement...they are looking for help, feeling trapped, and don't know how to move on to the other side. Most do not realize that if they simply allow their burdens to be released & participate in their review, they will finally be free. They need to know that moving into the light & completing their review will bring them peace and that there is no Hell to fear, and that moving through the review will finally release them of their sins & burdens.
Now that we understand that a Ghost has simply not gone through their life review & completed their crossing over process, it helps us to understand that ghosts are NOT to be feared. They are not trying to hurt us nor can they. They are not the same thing as an evil entity or demon. They are simply frightened, unsettled, unruly, and sometimes stubborn spirits who didn't complete their process.
Which Do You Have?
So now that you know the difference between a spirit and a ghost, you are probably wondering "which do I have a spirit or a ghost? The orbs in photos, the shadows, the dreams, the noises....whatever your experience may be, this answer is different for each circumstance. In my next newsletter & blog, I'll give you the common signs to differentiate between ghost or spirit, now that you know the difference between them, you'll want to understand the signs to identify which you may be dealing with. Also, during readings, I'm often able to tell people EXACTLY what or EXACTLY who they have and what their message is...if you are interested in scheduling a phone reading, click the schedule now button on my website www.shellyfrey.com or to do a reading in person, please call/text 717-816-1258.
This post may not gain me any friends among my field, but I feel it's necessary to warn & inform the public. I have received quite a few questions recently from fans that concern me. The questions surround things like psychic training courses, psychic festivals & fairs, readings, etc. I want to warn anyone & everyone to please be careful. I mean no disrespect here to anyone specifically, but I do NOT believe many of these people have any ability at all & many of those who do seem to exaggerate or embellish. I am not saying that every single other person claiming to be psychic or have abilities is "fake" but I have found there are only a handful of genuine mediums & psychics in this world. Most of us do not participate in or attend any type of psychic fairs, festivals, gatherings, etc. We also do not claim to remove curses or to have the ability to change circumstances in your life for additional fees. I do not mean to sound negative but if I don't say something & give my opinion, I'd be as guilty of their fraud as they are. I also do NOT believe these abilities can be learned by just anyone, but instead can only be taught to those who have some basic gift to begin with...some intuitive ability that they need help developing....trust me, I've tried to teach my mom & husband, it can't be taught if the basic gift from God isn't there & paying fees will not provide you with any intuitive ability if none is present to begin with. I DO believe everyone can feel or sense when their departed loved ones are with them because of the love & bond between souls but that doesn't make a person psychic. Please try to think with an open clear mind to anything a medium tells you...are they giving you specific details that can't be guessed or researched? I hate saying that, dealing at times with critics myself, but I know I have told many people things that I just couldn't guess, research or know unless it was coming from the afterlife, not all are intentionally scamming with malicious intent, some are very nice people who believe or have been told by another so called psychic that they too have abilities that they really don't have, but sadly many others are lying on purpose...either way, please be careful with anyone who claims to have psychic, medium, intuitive, healing or other related abilities. Here are some warning signs that you may be dealing with a fake:
-anyone asking you to bring certain items or photos
-anyone asking for ANY info in advance (names of deceased, birth dates etc)
-anyone claiming they can teach someone to be a psychic or teach channeling
-anyone charging additional fees for things like removing negative curses or offering to light candles or say certain prayers for you or claiming they can make certain things happen in your life etc
-anyone participating in events where multiple psychics gather: festivals, fairs, etc
-anyone using props: cards, crystal ball, your palm, etc
-anyone with a sign that reads "psychic readings today" or "Psychic -----(fill in a name)"
-Street Corner or strip mall psychics
-Anyone referring to a group reading as a "party"
There are some of us who are honest & sincere, we do not embellish & we do not talk crazy language/odd phrases or use props. We speak to you just like any normal person you have a conversation with. Research a psychic or medium, read reviews, ask others, follow them for a while on social media but remember, there are some good hearted honest people that you can trust, but sadly there are many more con artists in this field :(
I'm excited to announce that I will be doing free & discounted readings in December (see top of page) & going forward! If you want to do your own in person reading, here's how to get one for free...call for details 717-816-1258, hope to see you soon!
Perhaps the light of hope in the way the world met Brittany Maynard & now says goodbye to her, is what she is teaching us or maybe I should say, what she has motivated me to discuss....What does God really think of suicide or more specifically in this case, the controversial right- to-die movement? I have discussed in previous blogs a little about the controversial topic of suicide. Many people believe their understanding of the Bible, others believe what they were taught as children....my own beliefs are based strictly on fact, fact "in my world", which I admit, is quite different than most other people's world, since everything I know is based on what I'm told by passed loved ones, spirit guides, and angels. I also talk to God everyday. I thank Jesus for dying on the cross for all of us. I pray to God to give me wisdom, health, peace in humanity, etc... like so many others. I do not claim to hear God answer back to me nor do I claim to have back and forth communication with God...so everything I say when answering questions or writing blogs does come from FACT not belief nor faith, but FACT, but I believe these facts come from Heaven in the way of my communication with spirits, angels, and spirit guides...not God directly speaking to me...now that I have clarified.......back to the topic...Brittany Maynard, God bless her soul.
Brittany was a bright, beautiful lady who came to the public eye last year when doctors told her she had 6 months to live after being diagnosed with stage 4 Glioblastoma (brain cancer). She made headlines around the world when she announced she intended to die, she planned to take her own life by overdosing on medications given to her by her doctor when she felt the time was right and couldn't deal with the pain anymore, completely legal under Oregon's "Death with Dignity" Act. She didn't live in Oregon at the time, but moved there specifically for this reason. Over the next several months, we fell in love with her, going through the ups and downs along side her, as she often openly discussed her thought process on her choice...waiting until the pain was strong but not so bad that she couldn't think clearly enough etc Then she ended her own life Saturday, writing this on her Facebook "Goodbye to all my dear friends and family that I love. Today is the day I have chosen to pass away with dignity in the face of my terminal illness, this terrible brain cancer that has taken so much from me … but would have taken so much more, The world is a beautiful place, travel has been my greatest teacher, my close friends and folks are the greatest givers. I even have a ring of support around my bed as I type … Goodbye world. Spread good energy. Pay it forward!"
So what do those in Heaven tell me about this situation? Is this a sin? If our life is a plan we agree to before we are born, did Brittany go against hers by ending her life early? Is it still suicide? I have asked this question many times to many different spirits, guides, and even my angels and the answer is the same.....NO! Suicide/ending one's own life is only a sin and punishable when it is done with no physical pain involved, no physical pain being ended by the suicide at all, in other words, a person who knows their life is ending and commits suicide like Brittany did is only speeding up a process that God has already started, this is not a cause for punishment in the eyes of Heaven and not really considered suicide for that purpose. What about emotional pain? Yes & No.....Our end of life process hasn't been already started by God just because we are in emotional pain, this is a different kind of pain, so it is actually a pain that we are supposed to learn to deal with as part of our life path, by committing suicide and ending our life, we are cheating our plan, so we are in a way punished, but not the way most people think...I have discussed this in previous blogs...but there is no red fire Hell, these people are forced to go through very intense counseling before being reunited with past loved ones on the other side....in fact, often they do not get reunited for years and usually return to this world for another one of their lives almost immediately as punishment instead of being reunited with loved ones, as I have said before, this world IS Hell (so in that way, they do go to Hell), or they often are trapped souls dealing with the same pain that lead them to want to commit suicide to begin with and not moving on to Heaven, sort of like an in between state until they release their pain and move on. This means, from all that I have learned, in the case of suicide because of physical pain and/or illness, the passing is treated no differently than when someone passes by any other manner and the person's soul is at peace in Heaven with their loved ones. I would like to send my love and condolences to Brittany's family and friends, God Bless you all!
I recently wrote a blog about the curse of being a psychic medium & before that another one about how spirits prove the readings are real, so I thought it only appropriate to also write about the other side of it, the gift. I often wonder why me? I have been chatting with a priest (now a pastor) who I knew from childhood about some of my struggles in life. He has suggested that I must bear the burden for lost souls, this is causing much of my sadness & stress, even my unlucky constant stream of events in life & I should continue to build my relationship with God asking him to bear that burden so that these passed souls can finally rest in eternal peace. I asked him "What if I don't want to take on all of that pain & suffering?", he said there is no choice, I was chosen to do so, he's such a nice man for helping me & made me really think about something, why had I been chosen? Why do I have this ability? Knowing all that comes with it (from my previous post), why on earth would I ever agree to that? Did I agree to that? Then it hit me....I heard a voice, maybe my guides & Angels, maybe my inner self, "Shelly you don't have to have all the answers or understand it all", I still struggle with the why of all this & the stress that comes with it is overwhelming much of the time BUT there are many blessings in my life, I just have to, like many people, focus on the good & let the negative energy go. As an empath I literally suck in all the negative energy of the world, from both the living & the passed unsettled souls. I am determined that, as of the moment I am writing this blog, I am going to focus on the positive. I am going to take my own advice & release all the negative energy & I believe in doing so, everything else in my life will fall into place. The gift of being a medium isn't in the ability itself, it's in the people. All those people who I have met that were in pain, who needed guidance, those that came to meet me (from divine intervention I believe) at a time when they needed it. I found my answer just before writing this blog as I read through all the posts & messages so many of them had written me in response to my previous blog. In the blog I had written that I wondered where my karma was & why as I helped all of them find their peace when they needed it most, I couldn't find mine, well I think I've started to find it...it's in them. The support & love that I have from these people that didn't know me at all, but now treat me like a friend or family member, they are the blessing in this gift. I had been looking at it all wrong. God has given me many blessings...a wonderful husband & children, some supportive & loving family members, the strength to be honest & show my human side & emotions to the world, but he also gave me the gift of an ability to heal....regardless if that healing is through talking to the afterlife or helping with someone's life path & in every single person's peace that I'm able to help them find, I'll find my own. Thank you to each one of you. Our lives are what we make them....I'm only human, just like all of you, I've been battling stress, worry, & depression for the last few years but I WILL get through it & while only I can change it, I can do so at anytime & it all starts with staying positive! Not everyone is going to support you, you will always have people judging you, let them judge, if you ignore their judgements, they become only words. I will be working on this. Thank God I have this gift because for whatever reason I'm doing exactly what I was supposed to & I'm determined I WILL make it work somehow, after all God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers & I just realized, with all of you, I have an army :)
Why do people drive hours to do a reading? How do these people know this is REALLY their loved one? What makes you different than other psychics and mediums? Many people don't realize that I travel to hotels doing one on one private readings or that people often schedule me to come to their area. Often those coming to meet me will drive hours & really need that closure & peace, some just need to know their loved ones are ok & with them in spirit, but others have unanswered questions. Why are they willing to drive so far and how do they know it's real? How do they know I'm not researching them in advance or "cold reading" (a term used often by skeptics). You may have seen on my website there are numerous testimonials (both written and video interviews) from people who have done readings with me, all are genuinely shocked, many in tears and almost all finding peace they have been trying to find for years. I'm going to give you some examples of what messages often come through but just as important, I'll then explain how or why they know these messages are proven to be real. Here are just a few examples of life changing messages that came through during readings recently (after, I'll explain more about the proof part): -a mom told her daughter she had not committed suicide 20 years earlier & even called out her killer by name, a name that happened to be the step father the family had suspected all along, -a teen daughter explains that while she had not killed herself & her friend hadn't pushed her in front of a car, the friend hadn't tried to help her either, -a father apologizes for abandoning his son & explains the new family didn't want him to stay in touch all those years, but he regrets not standing up to them, -a sister tells her older sister not to feel bad for the argument & time they spent not speaking &all is forgiven, -a boyfriend thanks his fiancé for the tattoo of the rose with the teardrops. Also, along with these type messages spirit also gives specific details to prove it's really them, these details are almost always so specific they couldn't possibly be researched or known by anyone else, this is called validating. These messages alone often contain validation; like the tattoo with teardrops that have specific initials in the teardrop or the sister who was burdened with guilt, remember, I know nothing about her-even if I were to research as skeptics often claim, I doubt the obituary says the sisters hadn't been speaking. A guess maybe? Perhaps, but for all I knew they were extremely close, quite a risky guess but it's not just that comment about the guilt that convinces the lady that this REALLY IS HER SISTER. I feel my "specialty" is validation, that is using the process of conserving spirit energy for their messages while also getting very accurate & specific details to validate & prove it's really them at the very beginning of the reading. Spirit will often tell me things such as nicknames, specific dates, code words, where something is hidden, etc and while it doesn't always work smoothly or quickly, eventually the validation usually comes. I'm very patient. I never rush them or time my readings. I first validate who they are by extensively having them show me things in my life (for example people in my family so I'll say names), signs, symbols, etc so that without wasting all of their energy validating (or we'd have none left to connect for their important messages i mentioned earlier). It's a pretty hard balancing act for me & for them. I often describe it as putting together a puzzle that starts as general & vague clues that get much more detailed & specific as we go until eventually we have undeniable overwhelming evidence as to their identity. People often ask, "Why don't they just come through & tell you their name or connection to me?"; my simple answer -Many do & I don't know why they all can't but I believe it has to do with the energy of the person doing the reading, negativity in the room, my energy, their energy, the strength of our connection. I have noticed many times they validate well but it takes a lot of energy then while giving their message, they give me their name and I think, "why didn't they just do that to begin with" but I lose them soon after so I think it takes a lot of energy quickly when they start "normal" conversation. Often times, after providing details during the beginning validation such as specific dates or nicknames, and even more validations during their messages, like things that happened during their final days or as they were passing (such as thank you for telling me it was ok to go, or I waited until you left the room to pass), they will show me something or tell me something during the final minutes as I'm losing them that is more shocking validation than all the rest combined....the person doing the reading and I never know what's coming out next, it's remarkable to me the little things that they will get me to say, often things that I almost don't say because they seem so trivial, that is the one thing that convinces them without a doubt that this entire experience is real, for example as I was losing connection with a Father during a recent reading (he had validated well throughout and I feel the lady knew without a doubt it was her Dad already), but as if to say, in case there is any doubt left in your mind, he was saying his "I love you & I'm always with you" he turned to leave (that's the image I get in my mind as I'm losing connection, he turned back around and suddenly showed me his teeth, they had turned blue, bright blue, it was the strangest thing and I had never seen this before, spirit isn't even in physical form, they are energy, but often show me images of things, so I'll say certain things, so I thought in that quick moment, trying to decide if I would scare this lady by telling her I had lost her Dad's connection and my last image of his was blue teeth or should I say it, so I did...I said, "This may sound crazy and probably means nothing, but I try to mention every detail, so I'm going to ask, Do you know why he would be showing me bright blue teeth"? She began sobbing hysterically, she knew immediately what that meant and had apparently been waiting and hoping to hear that all along....even after all the names, birthdates, other specific validation, personality descriptions,etc that had come through, this tiny image of blue teeth meant the most to her and she explained "As he was dying, I told him, it's ok to go...go be with mom, show her those gorgeous blue teeth of yours, we'll be fine here, he laughed and squeezed my hand and then he passed" this was a conversation they had when he took his last breath in the hospital, his teeth had been blue because of something like juice he had been drinking, but that comment was VERY significant to her. These are the type things that can not be found online, they can not be researched, they are not in an obituary or on a Facebook page (not that any genuine medium has time to do all that research anyway because we do not). You can't cold read (which is a skeptic's way of saying we read body language). There is no logical or scientific way to explain that comment away as being anything other than a beautiful message of proof and validation from a loving father to his daughter. This is why people drive hours, wait months, then write reviews after, this is why people do readings over and over again. I'm not saying this process of connecting with passed loved ones is for everyone and I'm not saying every single reading has that specific of a validation message, but what I am saying is that I try as hard as I can to get that for every single person I do a reading with. From my perspective, you can't put a time limit on it, so I dont. I wish I could get everyone those kind of details. I often do, but sometimes I just don't...sometimes I don't get as much validation as I would like, but that same person does a reading again, and the next time, I do. I am just the middle man, I repeat, but I will promise to do my very best to repeat every detail and to be open, honest, and to put emphasis on the validating, because I know, the messages matter, but so does the validation. I will come to your area to do a one on one reading with you alone and/or your family or for a group, I also do phone readings. To schedule a reading, or to get information on having me come to your area, please call 717-816-1258. Please share this blog, spread the word so that more people understand how this process works. I can't speak for other mediums and I do believe there are only a handful of "genuine" mediums in this world, but if you have a good one, they will get some validation for you.
Joan Rivers…. a comic genius. Many consider her a comic icon. Sadly, in the past few days, the news of her tragic trip to the hospital has social media swirling with information. As of the writing of this blog, she hasn’t passed…yet. There are rumors circulating that she has, but those are just rumors, sadly, I have to stress, from a psychic medium perspective, I feel strongly those rumors will soon become a reality. As I’m writing this blog she is in the hospital on life support, her daughter Melissa being faced with one of the most difficult decisions (probably THE most difficult decision) that any human being will ever have to face….removing someone from life support.
I do so many readings with people who have lived for years with guilt after making this decision, regardless of how long they waited or what their final decision was. In light of what is going on with Ms. Rivers, I thought I would share my thoughts on this from a psychic perspective.
I believe (based on what spirit has told me during readings) there is no wrong answer here. The loved ones often feel one way during their life on this topic and will express it. For example, in the case of Joan Rivers, I psychically feel that she does not want to continue on life support and has probably in the past expressed to her family to discontinue life support in this type of a situation; however, most of the time, after a spirit has passed, they come through during a reading and tell me that as they were on the life support, they were already visiting Heaven…they were already beginning their process of visiting the other side, going through the process of crossing over & while sometimes were aware of what was going on around them in the hospital room, they were already finding their peace. They really wouldn’t have minded if their family needed more time with them and didn’t follow through with their wishes to immediately remove the life support, BUT, they also tell me that if they had previous told their family they wanted to remain on life support and once they were in that situation, the family had chosen to remove the life support, they were not upset at all and were still at peace & happy that the family didn’t suffer by having the burden of watching them in that state (on life support at the hospital). What I’m saying is basically this, once your loved one is passed, most of the time, they are not upset either way in regards to the life support debate regardless of what their wishes were in life & regardless if those wishes had been fulfilled, their only concern is that the family did what was best for themselves at the time so that they would find their peace the easiest and fastest way.
I’m not saying that I expect this will make that decision or the process for Joan, Melissa, or any family that has dealt or will deal with this situation any easier….this is never an easy choice, but I’m explaining that from what I have learned during my readings, your loved ones are at peace and not upset with the decision at all, regardless of the outcome.
In closing, I do feel that Joan Rivers will be leaving our world in the VERY near future and it’s a sad day for us, we have certainly been blessed to have had her here for so long making us smile and laugh, which is what she loved to do, but she will be going to Heaven & I’m sure, she’ll be telling her jokes there too! All my love & best wishes to her family!
If I told you, you could call up Heaven & set up a time to meet with your loved one, would you? Would you drive for hours to meet with them? Would you spend the time and money just for that last chance to say Goodbye, or to say Hello?, to ask them questions about their life in spirit or questions about their final moments? Well you can…at least that’s what thousands of people have told me after doing a reading. For them, it was like meeting with their passed loved one and many continue to do it on a regular basis after that first time because it’s like visiting with their loved one in Heaven for a while on earth. I do both phone and in person readings, I’m often asked which is better…..
I always prefer face to face readings over phone readings, not because phone readings aren't good, they are, but because I often get clearer more direct information when I'm sitting with someone than just speaking to them over the phone. I never know the client, not even their first name most of the time, they are scheduled by a host, usually their friend or family member. I arrive & go in a different room from the group, one at a time, people enter the room, sit down with me, not saying a word, I just begin speaking...having no idea who they are or a single thing about their life. The client often describes it as actually sitting down talking to their loved one and that's exactly what it often feels like. Here are just a few examples of what loved ones have said or talked about during recent readings that I did face to face in person with a complete stranger, or was it?!:
A lady who passed in her 20s came through, the first thing she said to my female client was that she had passed quickly, her body had been missing, and that foul play was involved, she then apologized that she had put herself in the situation she had, that ultimately caused her death, she described the 3 people who were involved, told me how and why she had been murdered, gave me the name of someone involved, even his birthday. She then gave me a secret password "bologna", I call it a password because it was the one word that convinced the client beyond a doubt that she wasn't talking to me, but was in fact talking to her sister, who had passed almost 15 years earlier....after the reading she explained to me that she and her sister would spend many nights late after coming home from a night of bar hopping, eating bologna sandwiches and just talking and having fun. The sister could hardly believe it when the word bologna came from my mouth, but it did...along with many other private details. After the reading she hugged me, telling me that she felt like she was visiting with her sister, and hugging her goodbye, until next time, which for her is about twice a year.
Another lady I recently sat with had someone come through and tell me she was older, like a Grandma and showed me that she passed from a health issue with the lungs, the client immediately was certain she knew who this was, as I continued, she quickly learned it was not at all who she thought it was or expected it to be, she had done sessions with me in the past but I of course didn't remember her...she assumed the same spirit would come through, boy was she wrong...I began to tell her exactly what I was being told "Tell her she's not one for jewelry but she wears the ring", I repeated this and the client looked at me like I was crazy, she said that just isn't true, I have no idea what she's talking about, she has come through before but never mentioned a ring and I don't have any jewelry from anyone”, I continued to argue with her for a good five minutes repeating it over and over "you are not one for jewelry but you wear the ring" and the client continued telling me she wouldn't say that and I was wrong, then it hit her, you could see her face, as if looking at me were looking at a ghost, she began to cry and said "Oh my God, that's not who I thought it was, that's my Grandma...she has never come through and I completely forgot, I am wearing her wedding ring, I never take it off and have worn it for so long, I completely forgot it was even her ring". She also felt as if she had just spent time talking to her Grandma. I didn't give up, I continued repeating because it wasn't me...it was her Grandma, speaking through me, strong personality and arguing, not willing to give up.
These are just two examples of why you are not setting an appointment with me, but instead with your passed loved ones. This is also why I strongly feel if you can do a reading in person, you really should. If you have read my details on Facebook of what comes through during phone sessions, you will see that phone sessions can be just as touching and amazing as well, but nothing beats the in person reading!
How do you get an in person reading? While phone readings can be scheduled on my website using the schedule now button, in person sessions are much harder to get…I do not do them in my home office. There are only 3 ways to schedule an in person reading:
1-Host me! It’s really pretty easy. You call/text John, my husband (he handles all the scheduling) 717-816-1258, you tell him your city and state. He will give you the fee info. The fee is always based on your distance from me and the hotel expenses in your area. I will come to you. There is NO LONGER a minimum number of people required, he just gives you a total fee that you pay to have me come. This fee is for 1-10 people, if you have more than 10 people, he will explain how that works…you also have the choice if each person wants a private reading or all together- fee is the same regardless.
2-Have a host invite you. Often times a friend or family member will be having me come, just ask them to include you.
3-Catch me if you can! I travel just a few times per year doing shows or private readings at venues, usually hotels, I will always announce on my Facebook and website www.shellyfrey.com . These are only done a few times and almost always in the northeast part of the country, space is extremely limited so be sure to catch me when you can.
Of course, not everyone can do one of these three things to see me in person, for those that can't, please schedule your appointment on my website for a phone reading, phone sessions are still a wonderful appointment with your passed loved one.
What have others said after their readings?
Just click the REVIEWS tab on my website to read honest reviews from people just like you, most of whom were complete strangers that had never met me before their readings.
I get so many questions about what my life is like or how things 'work" for me and in the afterlife. I sometimes forget that while these things are just a given for me & a part of my life as common knowledge, there are many beliefs out there in regards to me & what I do that people just don't automatically know the truth....how would you? It's not something everyone would just know....even other mediums experience things differently, so here's the biggest myths and misconceptions I hear or have been asked about....please feel free to share your comments, ideas, and questions too!
1. Shelly is so lucky, she sees and knows everything about everyone.
This is probably one of the biggest myths there is. I don't always just know where your husband is when he says he is going golfing, or where your missing necklace is or who your real dad is. I don't know what your deepest secrets and thoughts are and I certainly can't tell you what lotto numbers to play. While I can "see" more into your life than the average person & all of the things I just mentioned sometimes do just come to me, It's usually much harder than that...I usually have to go through the same relaxation and connecting technique that I do when I'm doing a session, I have to call in my angels and spirit guides, your angels and spirit guides, I have to really focus my mind on the question at hand & rarely get a direct answer...for example...I don't see your husband in a bar with his friends having a Coors Light & discussing his lie to you about being at the golf course, I may see that he isn't where he says, I may get a name...possibly his middle name or a name of someone he is sitting near or the bartender, I might hear a song that is playing in the background, but chances are, you or I will not even understand what those things mean. I rarely can just get asked a question and immediately know the answer.
2. I wish I could have the easy job Shelly does, she must make a ton of money working from home just a few hours a week or better yet, she does sessions for 40 hours a week.....if you do the math of the session fees, she's raking in the money.
This could NOT be further from the truth. There is a lot more than people realize that goes into this job. It is not a career that anyone (after really understanding what goes into it) would choose to do like going to college for a degree as a medium....My husband and I sacrifice a lot, we work long hours, are constantly away from our kids, meet strangers at hotels without really knowing if we are safe, deal with some very mentally unstable individuals-people who threaten everything from harming us to fake blackmail to suicide and everything in between. We get calls 24/7, some emergencies....many hang ups in the middle of family game night with our kids or just a relaxing dinner. I can't go out in public without either being recognized or having spirits come through to the point where I can't even finish what I'm trying to do.....and after all of this, the income is the same and some months less, than we made at our previous jobs....I am not doing sessions full time, that would be much too draining and just isn't possible. In addition to all of this, we have lost friends and family who simply do not believe in what we do-thinking it's evil or non-existant...No, this is certainly not a career that most people would choose...it chose me!
3. If I can do a reading with Shelly, she will solve all my problems, make my life worth living, make it all better, etc...
There are many people who have readings/sessions with me in which they find ultimate peace after years of heartache or get all their questions answered before even asking, but this is not always the case, this is the 1st step in a long journey, much like counseling, many people need numerous readings to connect and reconnect with their loved ones to find that peace or those answers.
4. Oh, I forgot to ask XYZ during my session, I think I'll ask Shelly or I just realized what she meant during my reading when my loved one said this, I need to ask her if XYZ is what he meant or I don't need a full session, I just have one quick question for her that I need answered.
I get a ton of emails and messages from people asking me for things outside of a session or after a session. I simply can't just answer these questions, as described in the previous question #1 above, there is an entire process to this and I do sessions before and after yours, so I don't remember most of your session once I have dialed the next number. Also, when I'm done with sessions or have a day off, I am thinking about my life, my family, etc... not connecting with the other dimensions. If I kept myself connected 24/7 in case anything comes through or to answer your "1 question" I would be so stressed and drained, I wouldn't be able to use my gift at all.
5. Shelly must read people's minds just for the fun of it or to see how they really feel.
I have a full busy life, connecting with the other side is mentally, emotionally, & physically draining, and so is focusing on other people's thoughts and minds. I have no desire to know what others are thinking, I see and hear enough without that...just because I can sometimes do it, doesn't mean I want to! I don’t see people in the mall or on the street and try to "see" what their life is like, I have no desire to know and when it comes to me automatically, I try to block it or leave their vicinity, I just don't need that drama.
6. This must be like a drug for Shelly, she probably has so much energy.
This is completely the opposite of the truth. I am more tired than ever and have difficulty ever relaxing...I don't remember the last time I slept for more than an hour or two at a time. If you look at my photos before I admitted to the world I could do this and started doing it professionally, then look at my photos now, I have aged well beyond the time I should have.
7. Shelly is so blessed, she has a perfect life.
TRUST ME...none of us have a perfect life. I am very blessed with many things (this gift, my family, my husband and children, health, etc...) but we all have our drama, no ones life is perfect, including mine. I am a normal human being and have the normal faults within myself and the same family, financial, minor health, etc.. issues that you have.
8.Shelly isn't really communicating and she's scamming people, no one can talk to the dead.
There are thousands of reviews and testimonials on my website, my Facebook page, and individual unbiased 3rd party websites saying otherwise. Sure, I know that there may be some people who will believe anything and often I get the same "Cold Reader" accusations as all other mediums & psychics, but the truth is, most of these reviews are from sane, smart, skeptical people who first came to me with no expectations, telling me nothing, not even their name, and I was able to give them very private, specific details about their life that can't be explained...how would I know that stuff? They aren't reaching to make it fit, it's not vague or general, it's specific and detailed.....It's coming from somewhere and I believe I am communicating not only with the dead, but have the ability to read minds, to psychically know things, and to communicate with other dimensions (spirit guides and angels). Just because you can't hear or see it doesn't mean I'm just really good at reading body language or guessing, the things I have been able to tell are not even close to things that would be guessed. I never pressure anyone to do a reading and I have nothing to hide, I'm an open book and very public with my life...I have no private life and trust me, this is way more work and stress than anyone would ever do to scam people out of a few hundred bucks....many times, I leave a group making next to nothing because of the time out of office I'm not doing phone sessions, the hotel and gas expense, etc..... why would I do that all for a lie? It makes no sense, because it isn't true. I get to help people...as long as I have people that are truly helped and find peace, I will continue doing this...yes, it is my job and it pays the bills, but I could do many other jobs that pay the bills for a lot less stress.
9. Shelly is communicating with other dimensions, but it's pure evil, those spirits are at rest and she's disturbing them.
This is ridiculous but you wouldn't believe how many people believe in afterlife, believe that I am talking to the dead, but also believe it's evil and I'm going to the place they call Hell for it.....this is simply so much of a misconception all I can say is, you can't believe every detail you read, even if it is in a book called the Bible. We are living in Hell already in this world, this is a gift from God and I was given it so I could use it.
10. Shelly is so strong, she never cries during sessions and seems to be always happy.
While I love my life and this gift, I am not as strong as you think. I cry watching Bambi....I am very emotionally fragile, if you deal with heartache, sorrow, and death and see the ugliest parts of the world all day everyday, it definitely shatters your strength. As a psychic medium, I struggle everyday with separating other people's problems and sorrows and living my life....do you know how hard it is to watch your teenager leave in the car, only hours after doing a reading for someone who's teen son with the same name or birthday, passed in a car accident?......I do have strength of faith and family, but I'm also very fragile.
11. Shelly charges too much or should work for free.
Would you go in to work tomorrow for free? Why should I? If you are a nurse, do you take double shifts on the weekend at a hospital that is hours away, leaving your children for days on end for free or less pay because you are helping people? of course not, in a perfect world, we would all be able to do this, but I have to pay my bills as you do, so just as you wouldn’t work for free, nor do. The time I put into this and the expenses of hotels and travel, etc... are definitely too much of an expense and to much pressure on my family to do this for free or for any less than I charge now. You are literally making an appointment with your passed loved one, it amazes me the number of people who question the price of that!
12. Shelly should time her sessions, I want to know in advance exactly how long sessions are.
This is one of the craziest things I have ever heard. This is not a Science, I am not God...just as I can't see and know everything about you or your life, I can't possible know what will happen during a session or how long it will last. All are different and I never know what I'm getting. I refuse to just tell your relatives to leave because a timer goes off-that's cruel.
I hope this clears up some of the misconceptions and myths I have heard about me and my life as a psychic medium. I love what I do, and it's definitely worth the sacrifice and difficulties I deal with to be able to help others find peace. I honestly don't know why there are so many people criticizing those of us that do this, if people find peace and are happy, why do they care? No one is forcing them to do a reading or connect with their own passed loved ones....I think, at least for some, it's because they don't have their own happiness, so they don't want others to be happy either, it's a sad but true fact. At this point in my life, there's nothing else I would rather do, but trust me, I didn't "choose" this....it chose me.