As a psychic medium, I get many questions from clients, friends, family, & even strangers. Most of them revolve around how this works, what I see, how I see it, and if I tell EVERYTHING. Let me start be explaining how I see. I know there are countless tv shows that depict a psychic medium actually seeing spirits. I do NOT see it like that. I'm not saying other psychic mediums are lying, that just isn't the way I see it. I "see" with my mind. In my mind I picture people, places, & things. In my mind I communicate with spirits, ghosts, and angels. I even hear and feel in my mind. It's like watching a movie in your head. When I describe what a spirit looks like, it's simply them showing me. They are actually no longer a physical body, but instead a collection of energy. Here is how I often describe it: if you wear glasses, take them off and try to see someone down the street-it's very blurry, but you may be able to figure out the general appearance... this is often how I see them in my mind. I hear their words in my head as well. Sometimes it's like they are in a tunnel far away and very muffled, other times it is clear. They do not speak in sentences, but it's more of a game. I get clues- I tell my client the clues, they have to figure out what it means. For example, I had a spirit tell me to say "cookie" by showing me an image of a cookie in my mind, I said to my client "Cookie" he's showing me a cookie, did he love cookies or something?" She instantly got excited and replied "No, his girlfriend's name is Cookie". This is one way they get me to say certain things, another way is by showing me my family members, for example if they had diabetes, they will often show me my mom, who has diabetes. Each psychic medium has certain signs and symbols, I have just learned with time & experience what some of my symbols mean. They might show me the motion of a break with their hands, sort of like if you break a wishbone, this is my symbol for divorce or someone in the family not speaking. I learn more symbols every day. I also know if the thought/sound/sensation is coming from my right side, it's a loved one, if it's on my left, it's an angel or spirit guide. I honestly have no idea why it works that way for me, it just does. I also will occasionally have a client who is unsatisfied about who shows up to communicate. They couldn't wait to speak with their mom, but she never shows, instead a great grandmother is here the entire time. I try to ask for the mom to come, but more often than not, I don't get her that time. It's not that her mom doesn't want to communicate, it's just that she's not there at the time. This is very hard for most people to understand. I don't understand it either.....I just know that I have no control over who shows up and who doesn't. I have many regular clients who meet with me on a regular basis, some of them get a different person each time, some get the same person each time. I have yet to figure out why it works this way, it just does! I also get many questions about spirits & ghosts going home with people either after a group or private session. The answer is YES, the spirits who came with you will leave with you, if they didn't come with you, they will not leave with you. Finally, I'd like to review a question that everyone is thinking, but few people actually ask out loud...Do I see the negative things and will I tell if I do. I do see some negative things, but not many. I may see that someone will have an illness or disease, be in an accident, have a fight with someone, lose their job, etc... None of these things are something I "want" to tell, but yes, I do tell everything I see unless someone instructs me otherwise. I feel that this spirit is using it's energy to tell me things for a reason and it's not my job to judge if someone can handle it, but simply to pass the message on...that's what I do. In closing, I would like to touch on one final subject that always seems to come up in questions. Do I see them everywhere, all of the time? Yes & No...I can say things to keep them away for the most part; however, if they want me to see them or to pass a message along, they will continue pestering me until I do what they want. I can usually get them to leave me alone so that I'm not seeing hundreds of spirits when simply going to the mall or attending one of my kid's school functions, but often, I'll get that "look" in my eyes and one of the kids will say..."Mom, please don't do a reading now"! I usually try to ignore it and it eventually goes away, but sometimes, I just can't help myself and approach a total stranger to tell them that their loved one is there and wants to say hello!
Last weekend I was in the Delaware area doing a group session, which went very well. At the end of the day on Saturday, feeling very tired, John and I went back to the hotel and I crashed. Doing back to back readings is physically exhausting and emotionally draining. I had hoped to go to the nearby casino that night, but was much too tired. The next morning, after checking out of the hotel, we decided to stop at the casino for a bit before beginning our 3.5 hour drive home. We typically go straight for the Roulette wheel (no my psychic abilities will not work for this, I have tried!), but they only had 2 tables open and they were packed. We walked around looking and found a Spanish21 Table with 2 seats open-perfect! We sat down and began to play. Immediately upon sitting down and handing the dealer my player card and money, I heard it. I knew I wasn't alone & thought, "Here we go again"! I clearly heard the voice in my head saying "Thelma". I tried to ignore it, it just kept repeating...."Thelma, Thelma....say it out loud, Thelma!" I knew this wasn't going to go away, spirits can be relentless. I tried saying (in my mind of course), " I'm not working right now Thelma, you need to leave!" It didn't work. Now in order to understand the next part of this story, you have to understand how this casino game works, basically, It's like regular BlackJack in most ways, but you have the chance of doing a side bet to try to "match" the dealer's card. We are now sitting there approximately 30 minutes- I have heard that name "Thelma" repeated in my head the ENTIRE time. I turn to John, my husband, and say, I'm not alone, someone named Thelma is here and she will not leave me alone, he just grinned. I explained to him that I may have to say something, being his usual supportive self, he said :if you need to say it, say it!" I then decided to reason with this spirit, I said (again in my mind), if you let me match the dealer's card, I'll ask these people if they know who you are when the dealer breaks to shuffle. The very next hand, I matched, and the one after that, then an exact match, then again....I had explained to John what my deal was, he laughed. This went on for several hands, I kept matching and we kept laughing. By now the dealer and one other player at the table asked me what we were laughing at, I said, I'll tell you when we get to the shuffle, but you'll probably all think I'm crazy. We finally get to the shuffle. The dealer and the 1 guy who were on to me asked me to tell them what's up. I said, "I am a Psychic Medium (of course, this always gets me some strange looks), I know that may sound crazy to you all, but there is a female spirit here named Thelma and she wants to talk to 1 of you"- they all look at me and then each other with a confused look on their face. There were 2 guys to my left, I had thought for sure 1 of them were going to say they knew her. There was an elderly lady on John's right and the dealer-all shaking their heads. I was so afraid this would happen-no one knows her, they think I'm crazy, then the older lady, who I can't see well because John is partially blocking her, leans over and says "WAIT A MINUTE!", then starts digging in her purse...with a look on her face like she had just seen a ghost herself, she pulls out a picture from her wallet, it's a female, imprinted in the top corner is her name "Thelma", she turns the card over to show me & everyone at the table...it's the card she picked up at Thelma's funeral. Thelma was her best friend's daughter. I explained that Thelma wanted her to relay some messages to her family- she missed them, loved them all, was at peace, etc...", the lady looks at John as if she's terrified and says "I don't think I want them to know I was at the casino gambling"! TRUE STORY!!!
I recently had a private session with a new client. We'll call her "Jane" for confidentiality purposes. She was quieter than most of my clients and came in to my office visibly shaking- she was both afraid and anxious. I opened the session as I always do, explaining the process and how spirits come through- the difference between a psychic medium & just a psychic, etc... First her grandmother came through-giving me names of people in the family and detailed info that she was shocked I knew...then a young man came through- I explained what he looked like & that he had passed much younger than her grandmother- I then gave his initials and finally his name- she was shocked and amazed, it was her brother. As he started speaking, he began apologizing...he wanted her to know that he was so sorry. He explained how he didn't live where she now does and that he had lived in a larger city, he said that he had gotten in with the wrong crowd and made some poor decisions. He then went on to say that the two of them had a lot of arguments and really didn't get along, he had been in legal trouble and had abused drugs and alcohol. He also wanted her to know that when he passed of a drug overdose, it was NOT a suicide, he began to cry (the first time I had ever seen this from a spirit), he explained that he accidentally took too many prescription pills and while he had many issues and was depressed, he did NOT kill himself. He also told her it was not a murder, but a complete accident. He repeated several times how sorry he was for what he put their family through- both while he was living and after he passed. He then told her to please tell his parents that they did the right thing in dealing with his issues by exercising tough love and alienating him. He mentioned the screaming in the home, the negative energy he created, and how much he wished he could change that. As he was fading and leaving the session, he turned and said to me "Thank you so much, I really needed to get that out, I am fine here, but couldn't truly feel at peace until I got those things off my chest and told the people I loved how sorry I was and what really happened". After the session, as "Jane" was leaving, she told me as tears welled in her eyes, how much agony the family had been through, over what caused her brother's death and the lingering questions: Did he commit suicide, was he murdered? They also worried that the tough love technique they chose to pursue with him, was the wrong one. Now she knows the truth. Of course, I have abbreviated this story for blog purposes. The reason I wanted to share this session is because I felt it was an important lesson for me. While there is no ill will or negativity and they are very happy and healthy, the process of communication with loved ones here on earth is a healing process, not only for us, but for the spirits as well. I'm not sure why I have this ability to communicate with the spirit world, but I do feel now, more than ever, it is my responsibility to help not only my clients with the grieving process, but sometimes the spirits as well. I hope that I can bring peace & comfort to not only those in this physical world, but to those that I am so blessed to be able to communicate with on the other side.
I received a comment on a previous blog I had written (the most recent blog, last comment),from a lady who seems very lost and confused right now. She is not alone, I get many similar calls and emails from others asking some of the very same questions and searching for answers. I often receive questions regarding Suicide, Murder, Heaven & Hell. These questions usually have to do with if Heaven and Hell really exist & what my beliefs are in relation to what happens to people who have sinned or committed suicide when they die. Do good people go to Heaven and bad people go to Hell? Are we forgiven for our sins, etc...
It is my understanding that there is not an actual Heaven or Hell on the other side. At least, not the way many of us picture it or have been taught about it. There are instead various levels or plains. I guess one could say that the higher levels represent Heaven and the lower levels represent Hell- but that's not the way it is actually labeled. The entire system is based on only one thing- Karma! That's right... it's not as exciting or complex as you might think. We all get back what we put out in life- good or bad, in this life or the next- We are rewarded for the good and held accountable for the bad.
We all have a plan before we are ever born. This is like a blueprint of what our life is supposed to be like, the challenges we should face, the people we will lose, and even when we are supposed to die- down to the day and minute- it's all planned before we are ever born. These lessons help us to achieve the ultimate goal: to live a selfless life full of love and compassion for others.
The other side, regardless of the level a spirit is on, is a beautiful magical place. It's very similar to what we are taught to expect Heaven to look and feel like. When we die, we go to a certain level in "Heaven". Our levels are determined by our life and how we live it (please keep in mind that there are many other details and circumstances being omitted here, I'm just trying to explain this without writing an entire book on a blog).
When you get over there and go to your assigned level, based on your life here in the physical world, you begin going through training and counseling of sorts to learn what you didn't learn while here and to prepare you for your next life. Most spirits are over there for hundreds of years on their current level before returning to this world.
Now let's discuss suicide. When you commit suicide, you end your life earlier than you had previously agreed. This means that all future lessons will be missed and past ones were not mastered. This goes against your "blue print". As a result, there are consequences. You will have to go through some very short counseling on the lower levels of the other side, then you must be re-born very quickly. You will be born as someone else, but must face all of the same struggles and challenges in your new life that you tried to escape from your last time around.
So you see, when I say, suicide is NEVER the answer...it truly isn't, you will just be re-born and have to deal with the same problems and issues all over again until you get it right. There is a little more that occurs during the "in between" period- that is, after you commit suicide but before you come back, but I'm not going to get into that in this blog.
The same holds true for murderers, rapists, etc... They are also held accountable for what they have done in life. They immediately go to a lower level. They have to go through intense training and counseling, a reformation of sorts.
The biggest thing I have learned is that what I thought I knew about redemption of sins, is simply not true. When you die, all your sins are not simply forgiven because you asked for them to be, also, while you are held accountable for what you do in this life, there is no Satan and there is no Hell (at least not the way most of us have been taught).
It may seem like being born and having to do the same life over again as a different person isn't much punishment- but please remember, our souls do not want to be born- we don't want to come to this life any sooner than we have to- so in a way, it is like a punishment.
To sum it up, I haven't even started to explain all of the dynamics involved with death and suicide, Heaven and Hell, or Good & Evil. If you take only one thing away from this blog post, I hope you'll understand that suicide is NEVER the answer and Karma is very real!
I'd like to start out by saying I'm not writing this blog to gain attention or to in any way take focus off what really matters- her life, but Whitney Houston gave us all such a wonderful gift with her voice, and to lose her at such a young age is a tragedy. With that being said, I have heard from many people asking me what I, as a psychic, think happened- I may be putting my reputation on the line by giving my initial impressions- which I had told some people (you know who you are) within minutes of initially hearing about her death. I believe Whitney Houston passed a long time before the authorities were called. I also believe there is in some way a suicidal energy with her passing. I'm very sorry to express that & I'm sure many will argue with me, but that's the energy I get...meaning she either intentionally took her own life or she knew she was leaving this world, and didn't reach out for help because she didn't care. I feel she was laying on the floor for a long period of time, and this may have been how she was found. There were prescription drugs involved. I know some of these things can be assumed by anyone who has ever read a newspaper or watched tv, but I'm saying I don't see it being "street drugs". I know the media has already released the fact that she was found in a hotel, but that's another fact I had seen clearly. I know many of you are asking yourself why I am writing this blog...the answer is simple....as of now, the media hasn't released any info about her death except that she passed & that it was in a hotel. I "focused in" on this because numerous people asked me what my thoughts and feelings were- I could be wrong- no psychic is right 100% of the time, but this is what I see. Rest in Peace Whitney. You will be missed by family, friends, and fans.
I wanted to share another memorable session. I was doing a group session. There were about 10 people present. I went around the room as I usually do, different family members and friends were coming through for different guests. It was a "typical" group session (If you can ever call these experiences typical).
Suddenly, I had the spirit of a man saying he passed young, he appeared to be in his late teens or early 20s. He gave me the feeling that he was very close to someone in the group. I said " I have a man who passed early in life, he says he was very close to someone here...maybe a husband/boyfriend or even a brother or best friend". No one from the group responded. I continued.."He's a good looking guy, someone really close- a cousin or brother maybe? he says he spent holidays with you, did things together as children, he says you have a sister...someone must know this guy?" Still, the group remains quiet...I then ask again.. "Does anyone know who this is?".
I must explain here that often times the spirit is relentless and will not simply leave. They will continue as long as it takes for me to connect them with the right person.
The guests begin saying, no, not me, I have no idea who this is ( I can tell by the looks on their faces they are starting to doubt my abilities)....At this point, I am beginning to get frustrated and so is he...he then gives me a name, loud & clear...., I say to the group "OK, Who is Jennifer"? I say this rather abruptly, the same way he said it to me. Finally, a girl in the corner of the room says..."That's me...I'm Jennifer". I proceed to ask her if she had anyone she was very close to who passed at a young age, she says, yes my cousin. I tease her a little & say "Finally, duh...why didn't you speak up?", she replied that she was thinking it was a husband or boyfriend because that's the first thing I had said about him.
He then goes on to give her information to validate his identity, personal stories about how they got in trouble together as kids and other situations that meant something & validated his identity for her. He then tells me his death was mysterious. He continues to explain that his parents always suspected foul play and they were right. He tells me to tell her, "Go see them, she hasn't seen them in a while"...she confirms that this is true-his parents did suspect foul play & she hadn't seen them in a while. He instructs her (through me) to tell his parents that they were right, that there were at least 2 others involved in his death and that somehow drugs were related. He said his parents needed to hear that. She confirmed that they were having a very difficult time getting past his death because they just didn't know what happened. I then told her every detail he gave me about his death.
While I have many memorable readings, this is one of those that sticks with me. This reading taught me two very important lessons about the other side....1-If a spirit has a message that they feel is important to get out, they will...they do not give up and will continue relentlessly until I get the message to the right person. 2- I have to say what they say, I shouldn't guess or try to figure out the clues myself, this can confuse the clients or lead them down the wrong path. If I had just said what I heard, that this was a male who was very close to someone in the room, Jennifer may have thought of her cousin sooner, but because I interpreted his statement about the close relationship to mean it was possibly a husband and that was the first thing I said, she immediately discounted it and thought this message was meant for someone else. As soon as she heard me say "Possibly a husband", she tuned out, until I said her name, Jennifer. It can sometimes be difficult to just repeat exactly what I hear. It sounds like it would be easy enough to just repeat, and that is my job, but as humans, we automatically try to understand or decipher the clues ourselves. I wasn't trying to lead my clients, but simply trying to help them interpret the meanings of the clues based on my experience. I now try to say EXACTLY what is said to me, word for word, and while I may offer suggestions, such as "this usually means...", I no longer try to figure it all out myself. I know now that it is not my job to figure it all out, I am simply the messenger.
I have seen an increase lately in the number of phone calls & emails I get from parents who think their child may be psychic or have psychic abilities. The experiences range from the paranormal (seeing ghosts or spirits) to psychic abilities- predicting the future, dreams, or even premonitions. Often times these parents are understandably confused and concerned. They don't know what to believe or how to feel. They want to support their child, but they don't want to ignore the fact that something else could be wrong. Often times this can be very alarming for both parent & child. I encourage you to observe your child, ask questions, and look for natural explanations first. If you can not find a natural explanation, please feel free to contact me for an appointment. I can do a psychic evaluation/assessment of your child. It's a simple painless process that includes a conversation with the parent, then the child. I then conduct a series of psychic and medium ability tests. I can discuss my determination with you and then we move forward based on my recommendations and your wishes. Many children do have these abilities. It's hard enough to deal with them as an adult, but even more difficult for a child or teen. Please keep in mind that I am a professional psychic and can often share experiences and feelings with a child or teen that may feel no one else understands them. I am not a licensed medical professional & often times, the symptoms of psychic phenomenon mimic the signs & symptoms of a serious medical or psychological condition that only can be determined by a licensed professional in that field. Please know that you are not alone and you are not crazy! Many families have similar situations and your child or teen may in fact be a psychic or a medium. For more information on these evaluations, please visit the : "FAQs" and the "Service & Rates" sections of my website or contact me.
I just wanted to share an interesting reading that happened over the weekend. While all readings are very interesting & exciting and often bring peace & joy to the client & myself, some of them , like this one, just stand out to me. I can't remember every detail of how this went because if you have ever met me, you know, I forget most of what comes through during a reading as soon as it is out of my mouth-they are not my thoughts-so they are gone instantly, but here's what I do remember of this reading.
I went to West Virginia to do a group session. I only knew the host and 2 attendees of the group. I did my normal intro to the group of about 15 people. A very nice older man came through to chat with his wife and granddaughter, then a mother in law, a friend, etc... as we had the chance to connect various people around the room with their loved ones. We passed the tissues around (which is how it normally goes at a group) when suddenly I had a very bad pain in my head. I have never felt a headache that bad. I also felt a squeezing pressure in my head with the pain. I explained the feeling & that it came with a man who probably passed young- in his 20s or 30s. He passed with trauma to his head. An older lady from the corner of the room said "I think that's for me", her voice quivering as tears welled her in eyes. I asked if she had a son who passed several years ago with head trauma at this age...she said "yes". I can't remember the "small talk" but he started with little comments and words to validate his identity...all of which she nodded and agreed made sense to her. I then said "I feel like his death was an accident, not medical related", to which she replied an astounding "YES"! She then asked "What can you tell me about his death?" I told her that he said it was an accident but someone was keeping a secret. I saw a group of people around him, something happened, they all ran, someone knew & either didn't try to help or didn't tell anyone something important that they knew. She then explained to me that he had been shot in the head. The police told her he used his own gun & he accidentally shot himself in the head. I then told her, "He's saying it didn't happen that way." She immediately sighed loud enough for the entire room to hear. She then said, the police told me he was getting the gun out to show his friends when the gun went off and he accidentally shot himself. She said he had been a hunter and grew up around guns his entire life, so it wasn't strange that he got the gun out to show friends. I then asked her (I almost didn't ask this because I couldn't believe he was saying what I thought I heard next).....I ask "Was there someone with him at the time named Scott ?" She began crying & shook her head yes..she could barely speak to answer and I was getting filled with emotion too (something I rarely do at a reading). I said...Scott did it. He says he got the gun out to show his friends, Scott was handling it & somehow it went off and shot him-he died almost instantly and felt no pain. It was an accident, no doubt about it, but Scott never admitted that he did it. Her voice grew much stronger now and louder, she was no longer sobbing but almost smiling as she said "I KNEW IT! I CONFRONTED SCOTT & HIS WIFE SEVERAL YEARS AGO....BUT HE STILL DENIED IT, I KNEW IT WAS AN ACCIDENT, BUT I ALSO KNEW MY SON DIDN'T SHOOT HIMSELF". The entire group gasped at this point, but aside from that gasp, the other attendees said nothing & the room was completely quiet. I told her that she was absolutely right & that he clearly told me this Scott guy had murdered him, but by complete & total accident. He didn't want her to pursue this in any way...he just wanted her to have peace again knowing what really happened & that she was right all along. We continued for a few moments with other family members in the room. When the group session ended, she came up to me and hugged me so tight it brought tears to my eyes. She explained that this has haunted her for over 25 years. She hasn't had true peace in her life since the day she lost her son because she knew he couldn't have done it himself. He had an injury to the hand the police said he shot himself with earlier in his life, that left it so he couldn't move it a certain way- there was no way he could have shot himself in the manner the police told her. She cried & said "I will finally be able to sleep at night and enjoy my life, thank you so much...you'll never know what this meant to me, it changed my life". While I may never truly understand the impact this had on this lady. I do know that the look of calm & peace in her eyes when she left was so overwhelming it took my breath away. I know now for certain that this is what I'm supposed to do with my life. I don't feel I deserve that kind of credit, as I am just the messenger..repeating what I hear. It was the connection & love between her and her son that allowed me to repeat his words that night, but I LOVED being their interpreter!
You have a random thought about someone that you haven't spoken to in quite a while, then suddenly, the phone rings...it's that person calling, just minutes after you thought about them or You never leave your cell phone on at work, but for some reason, on a particular day, you feel the need to do so...the school calls that exact day, your child is sick and you need to pick him up at school. Maybe you predict what will happen on your favorite TV show as soon as it starts and you were right. You are having a fun day of shopping when suddenly your throat starts to hurt and you feel really sick, but you were fine that morning, you decide to finish your shopping at another time and head home, only to find out that your mom has just been diagnosed with Strep Throat. Any of these scenarios sound familiar? Could you be psychic?
While not everyone is "psychic" we do all have psychic abilities to some degree. We all have things happen daily similar to the situations I described, we just don't always recognize them for what they are- we tend to dismiss them as coincidences. Yes, there are such things as coincidences and maybe (in the example above) you really were just getting the flu and your mother happened to be diagnosed with strep at the same time... OR MAYBE NOT! Sensitive or intuitive abilities are something we all possess. Some are just more aware of it than others. The most important thing to remember is to NOT second guess yourself or over analyze. If your initial instinct tells you it was an intuitive/psychic experience, It probably was.
I would love to hear your similar stories. Feel free to add your comments to this post to share your own psychic or intuitive experiences.
The Question I get most often is this "Why do you want to spend your life connecting people to their loved ones who have passed or why would you want to spend your life talking to dead people"?
My answer is simple & part of a Facebook posting I did today- I do this because The most difficult part of OUR life is dealing with SOMEONE ELSE'S death. I know the pain of losing someone and if I can help ease that pain, even a little bit, for a little while, then I want to do that for as many people as I can, for the rest of my life. That is why I have chosen this profession. I feel I have been given this gift for a reason and I intend to use it to help as many people as I can.